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  Merryn July 22, 2011 at 8:22am

  Well I don't think I can add much to the great advice above, and I have to agree with it. Tolerating bad behaviour will only make it worse. You deserve better, and I agree that he won't learn what he needs to if you keep making allowances for him. I think it is often the case that we can only make sense of things in retrospect, maybe many years down the track. Peace to you : )
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  Steve from 2 t awa July 22, 2011 at 6:54am

  Ali

  Please do not allow yourself to be treated so disrespectfully and with no consideration, learn your lesson quickly and move on I feel.

  This guy is clearly making a convenience of you and your good nature, send him on his way, we are not responsible for anyone else.

  Protect yourself, spiritual growth is halted when we have attachments that are not from Love.

  Kind thoughts

  Light and Love

  Steve

   

   

   
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  3vhvdxnclmnsm July 22, 2011 at 6:02am

  DING DING DING DING

   

  Can you hear the alarm bells ringing?

   

  From experience Ali, GET OUT NOW.

   

  "A leopard never changes his spots, he just changes his hunting methods"

   

  You were meant to meet him and learn how to spot "him" again.  

   

  With love Karen
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  Marique July 22, 2011 at 5:35am

  Ali, I have a few things to say about the questions you have posed about what you are meant to learn from your experiences with your boyfriend.  I am saying this because I love my fellow sisters very much and because I lived through a long long marriage with someone with anger issues myself, and asked myself the same questions that you have asked often about why I felt I must stay with him and whether it was part of a soul agreement or something.  I finally left my marriage of over thirty years because he tried to kill me by driving my side of the car into a cement wall.  For me that was the writing on the wall.  After recovering and doing much soul searching I found the answer to why I had stayed with him all those years.  It was because I had low self esteem and I needed to learn to love myself as much as I loved everyone else and had to learn that I deserved to be cherished and treated with respect.  Your boyfriend is over thirty years old and his lesson is to learn not to take his anger out on others.  If you truly love him you will let him go.  He will not learn anything about his lesson he needs to learn if you continue to let him mistreat you, believe me I know this from my own experience.

   

  After I left my husband, it was only then when he had lost me and realized how he had treated me and realized that I did not deserve it, that he finally got help.  He told me that my leaving was the best thing I could have done for him because neither one of us was happy all those years.  He did not respect me because I did not respect or love myself to put my foot down and say NO MORE.  So my soul lesson was to learn self love and respect, and his soul lesson was to not be abusive toward people he loved.  Now we both are happy in our new lives and are the best of friends.  So my advice to you is to love yourself to let him go from your life.  A situation like that never has a happy ending when things keep escalating.  You are doing neither of you any favors as far as emotional and spiritual growth.  Women are great ones for hanging in there in bad situations though, so I understand.  But you must take care of your wellbeing, and he needs to learn his life lessons.

   

  Please do not take offence at what I have said, it is spoken from my heart.
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    Diana > Marique July 22, 2011 at 6:35pm

    Marique wonderful reply :)))
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      Marique > Diana July 24, 2011 at 4:59pm

      Thnak you Diana.  I had to respond and usually I do not give advice, but this was so close to my heart. 
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    Ali > Marique July 22, 2011 at 5:43am

    Thank you for sharing.   I appreciate your honesty and wisdom.
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  Eish Core July 22, 2011 at 12:03am

  Let him go, respond to any further drama with unconditional love.

  my guess is it is time for him to face his own demons, whatever they may be.

   

  but that is my opinion... do what your heart tells you to do
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    Ali > Eish Core July 22, 2011 at 6:13am

    Thank you Ross.
    
    I see you replying my post and as a man that you are... i am amazed that you are so nice.  Thank you for your reply. Namaste
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      Eish Core > Ali July 22, 2011 at 9:59am

      One thing I will suggest, is that you call in your Twin Flame for love and support, for they have much to offer in that regard. I havent met mine physically in this life yet, but I can feel her presence and its so beautiful it brings tears to my eyes at times.