I'd like some opinions from enlightened dear friends on here.
What is your opinion on monogamy?
As I mature more and become more experienced in relationships,in my opinion,monogamous relationships is not within our nature. It causes problems and it goes against one's free will.
I believe monogamy/marriage has been a cultural and religious tradition.
Jesus says in the bible "those who have looked at another woman with lust in their eyes have already committed adultery." I really don't believe Jesus himself said this. In my opinion,this verse was written by priests just like many other scriptures that are meant to control and make us feel weak.
Many people who are monogamous,are most likely not monogamous in their own mind.Our sexual energy will always function the way it is. When you see a beautiful woman,or a man walking down the street-you connect with their eyes and then you connect with their body.This bond between a stranger is natural. This bond is electro-magnetic energy between two souls.
When we get in a monogamous relationship,this often is not looked as something norm. Im sure many of you have had trouble from your partner/spouse for looking at another soul,or complimenting on their beauty. But is this really wrong? Is speaking the truth a wrong thing?
Im posting this because I'm having a hard time in a monogamous relationship. I've never cheated on my current partner or previous ones. This being my longest committed ,I'm having a hard time controlling myself down to one person. I'm doing it not because I like but I'm doing it for the other person-at the same time Im suffering. Physically Im committed,mentally I'm not committed.I love this person and I want to be with her,and perhaps have kids one day-my mind is playing tricks with me. My urge has nothing to do with exploring,because before I met her I have been with numerous of women and had many fantasies.
All my friends my age laugh and make fun of me because I don't cheat and I'm committed. On the other hand they have girlfriends and on the side they are sleeping with others. This is natural to them .I don't do this because I believe in respect and earning other's trust. I would only do such thing with a permission from my partner,however whenever I talk to her about intimacy with others she starts bursting in tears and tells me this is not love and its human for her to be with one man.But she does not know that in the end,the lust dies,and the love goes on. When the lust dies,the sex becomes dull and boring. This is why so many couples either end up cheating or stop having sex or get divorced eventually because the energy just dies out.
I do everything for her. I don't party or drink and go out with other females.I don't have any female friends. I work. I provide money and food for our home.I rarely hangout with my guy friends because all they do is drink,party or smoke marijuana- I have dropped all these bad habits as they no longer serve me. Im committed and she is the only person in my life. I love her unconditionally but when I bring the topic with intimacy with others for fun, she seems to be strongly against it. I would like some woman's view on this.
What do you guys think? Am I obsessed with sex? Is it normal for me to wanting to be intimate with others when Im in love with someone else?
I like Osho's views on marriage and intimacy.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OAXghwgkqFg
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You have to be honest to yourself and to her, if you are not happy and free then what is the point?
No one belongs to anyone, maybe look at what it is that you are looking for outside the relationship?
How can you YOU make it undull and sexy with your partner. You only get as good as you give.
Attachments in a relationship is usually what drives the other away. No one is attracted to anyone who is clingy or needy, and if they are its called co dependence which is yet another fear factor of the ego needing to be fed through reassurance from the other.
I say be True!
Abraham/Esther is brilliant, and has really helped me A LOT! I recommend her (them) to anyone!
I feel like she is talking to me! Great find.
One would think Abraham just spoke to Thracian direct...HAHAHAHAHAHA
That's a great clip, thanks Lori
Well im definitely not alone here!.
Bad Online Dates did a year-long relationship survey with hundreds of responses, mostly from North America. Here's the breakdown:
Hi thracian,
In my understanding, surveys follow the laws of quantum physics like all else in the universe....the outcome is effected by the observer's thoughts, ie, whatever the thinking of the person making the survey, they will attract via the same frequency, those who are in alignment with that thought. And that's how you came upon the survey, via your frequency specific thoughts. :)
If the same questions were asked by the catholic church, the percentages would be quite different i bet :))))
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isQe5ceepaU
Sexuality is sacred. It just depends on which level you dabble in/are at. ;)
For it is in the very fabric of creation, the active/receptive polarities. It is the way to unity.
It is beyond our physical bodies, as expressed so well in the next 3 densities of reality.
Most people on Earth only reach orange ray energy transfer, which is why they think it is physical only and are glad to be rid of it. However sexual energy transfer goes all the way from Red ray to Violet ray. It is certainly well beyond detailed description to surmise green ray transfer and above. It's purely experiential.
amen to that.
Well I've done fine without it for a considerable period of time. Anyway, I'm effectively banned from any such activity because of my twin flame.