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  Marique August 27, 2013 at 6:32pm

  Actually I understand what you are alluding to in this.....amazing.....as for pondering beards...hope I do not grow one, being a girl and all, haha....So right about seeing our OWN mistakes as well as our co-humans is a very big step indeed....Time to pull up our big girl big boy panties and stop whailing about what is bad in the world, wawawa, and be mature and actually do actions to change that which we feel needs changing....so easy to run to MOM to fix all our injustices and blame it all on outside causes and so hard to actually DO actions of our own to make the improvements we feel that the world needs.  One time I tried an experiment with my sons and foster sons because having 6 kids around all about the same age under the age of five was a stressful thing, all competitive for my attention and all hellbent on making the other kids look undesirable in my eyes. I grew ever so tired of the tattle taling and expectations that I would take sides and being a referee to a never ending squirmish with no end.  I told them that if one of them did something to the other and made them mad (like not sharing, grabbing each others toys, tormenting and name calling and stuff like that), do not expect me to intervene and that I no longer wanted to even hear about it and would not listen at all. (I know bad mommy.....)  I told them that if they in any way physically harmed each other however that I would make them thoroughly sorry that they did but did not say what the consequences were but made is sound very ominous, lol.  Once they realized they were on their own and I was no longer in the game of being referee, they slowly began to work things out without hurting each other or ratting out each other out because they knew that I was not going to intervene unless there was physical harm or physically dangerous situations such as (i.e., Mikey is hanging upside in the chimney....that sort of thing, or like the time I told my son to go play in traffic kiddingly of course and he actually did, those kinds of things I insisted on knowing.....) .I could not believe after a month that they all were getting along pretty good and did not turn out like in the lord of the flies book after all...AMAZING lesson and an experiment with a great result that lasted from then on into adulthood actually....Just like what you have mentioned here, great lesson....Good job on a good post.  Just another comment though....now that my kids are adults themselves they have forgotten their lessons and now when they call me they are always ratting each other out.....arkkkk....oh well...time to do the game again with them.....maybe they can pass the lesson on to my grandchild...Lucky for them my 9 year old grandson has never been a tattletale or a whiner...tee hee he took after me.