Every time i have something to look forward to i expect it to happen and always am disappointed. Somebody elaborate on this and help me out please. Also how do you not expect something when you planned it?. I always get disappointed, because i'm always expected and then i spiral into a negative mood, because i'm worried if i'll see this person, or if the outcome will be right. I really need help, as this is something that i have yet to really master over my life. Thankyou, i look forward to hearing your thoughts.
...dont have any expectations...so the problem is solved..
there is a big difference between expectation and faith. Expectation is a mindset of the ego, where it demands something and expects it to occur, adds an aspect of negative emotion to it for 'if this event doesn't happen then....". Faith that it will happen is a different story all together, you use a different part of your brain and use your heart more than your head. If you have faith that an event will occur and take expectation out of it altogether, it is far more likely to occur because there is no expectation, there is no kind of negative energy floating around to make it not happen. If it doesn't happen for some reason, there is no disappointment because there was no expectation, only an understanding that it wasn't meant to happen at that time for reasons out of your own control. Faith is from the heart, it is driven and lead by the heart. Expectation with of the ego, of the brain which is told to expect rather than to find for yourself. I'm not sure that I've explained this correctly but give it a thought or two, you never know what you might come up with :) Good luck.
Very evolved realization...
Now look at all relationships with others and how they have been impacted expectations? I have not yet mastered expectations within romantic relationships...
Expectations limit creation in all forms.
For best results, Stay within the moment that is "Now" - Perhaps you'll attain a elevated plateau that doesn't have the significant dips and rises that highly influenced by expectations.
Some cheats that have helped me...
-Everyone is doing what they need to be doing
-"This too shall pass" - especially when you're experiencing mega bliss - it has nice carryover when you are low...
-All is in perfection!
In the book, Converstations With God, the author tells us "Expectations Ruin Relationships." That wisdom has helped me tremendously through the years. If you expect NOTHING then you will never be disappointed. Watch yourself - be conscious of your expectations and STOP having them. In a short time - your outlook will change. When - now and then - a person actually comes through - you will be delighted - beause you have no expectations.
Let's see if I can gather some wisdom from my writings.
Expectation is an attachment to the future.
Attachment, as we know, is suffering.
So with expectations not only is one attached, one is also living in the future instead of living in the now.
Expectations are the antithesis of being in the now. They are about living in the future.
The root cause of expectations are beliefs. And, in my definition, beliefs themselves are emotional attachments to knowledge. That knowledge itself may or may not be false.
So from which ever angle you look at it, attachment is lying as the root cause of it all.
Attachments spring forth from fear. And fear comes from a lack of understanding of self, of nature and of the universe.
Generally speaking, attachment and its cousin fear, run deeply through most of humanity, on many levels.
Some very visibly, others are completely invisible to the conscious mind.
In the case of looking forward to something. Ask yourself the question why exactly are you looking forward to it.
What will it do for you. And then when you have your list of things that this event/person will solve. If you are depending on this event/person to make you happy...you demonstrating the fact that you aren't harmonious within yourself and that you need external intervention, ie you need to give your power away in order to feel happy...that's one example.
See if you can solve any of those things on the list by yourself or in collaboration with others.
Very little has been left undone in this way.
Also, keep your power within you. As soon as you are effected by an external event, stop yourself and realize that the only reason why you have been affected is because that particular event/person has brought up something within you that you constantly do not want to address. And because you don't want to address it, you give it to others to address for you.
But they cannot, no one ever could, at least when it comes to the internal workings of the soul.
Some will even use this as an opportunity to enslave you. Which, ultimately is what expectation is, self-enslavement to a belief.
There is a point where you reach complete detachment from the drama, when very, very little stirs you in a negative fashion. Aim thither.
Be flexible like water, for that is the only way to carve your way through mountains of granite, that life is.
Yet, have enough elasticity within you to bend any which way and you will surely find your way back to sea.
It's well to have a magical feeling of "Expectancy" in each moment, but not specific "expectations". Each moment confers its own gifts but you may miss them if you're looking forward to only one defined event/relationship/outcome to occur. Be like the child at Christmastime and revel in the mystery, beauty and presence of the season. But if you're expecting one specific present, you may forfeit your ability to enjoy both the present moment and all the various gifts that are presented to you.
Wisdom, you sound like me when I was younger, if I may say so. You sound like your thoughts & energy are scattered. Have you been around other Higher energy people for any extended period of time? You've got to try harder in some ways without beating up on yourself and this is best learned around people who are more centered and stable in themselves. AND YOU MUST FORGET about all the $&!) you learned from your peers! As much as possible, your mind must be emptied of the trash you picked up from others (by this I mean behavior that produces no results in personality progress). Get away from negative people, as much as possible, get around positive, no drama, no issue, people. For me, this was the only way. I'm amazed at how the younger people these days want so much (I feel for them) to learn & grow, but are thrown many distractions through media, mags, games, elctrncs, food, etc. If anyone can get around all this crap, they're superman.
Also remember this - from a very aged, wise man, everything, EVERYTHING you see in the movies is modelled behavior meant to force you to conform to a MODEL. If it were not so, you wouldn't see all the confused, hyperactive, preactive, mentally dull people who lack a thirst for life. I hate this with all my heart. It is disgusting to see a society so perverse and malformed. It is difficult to live in this world without something vile marking your very soul with lude graffiti that offends the sacred, precious part of ourselves. If you can keep in mind not to fear, just never fear, you will come out on top.
There might be another source for your bad luck. You may have Negs use an attack on you called Glamor:
Glamor is a field of intention energy that Negs use to hide their true intentions, mask people to their opposite being, and fool psychics and also surround a person with a field that irritates and repels other people. This also affects your "Luck" which is another way of saying they are interfering with what should be happening in your life and you begin to feel unlucky.
BINGO we have a winner, well said Xidorn. What works to counter the cause of one problem may not work on another. Learning that lesson the hard way.
It is only when you trust and surrender to the divine plan that you will not feel disappointment because you'll then realize that there is no such thing as mistake, no such things as wrong decision etc as everything is the way it should be now. It is all parts of your soul journey. I know it all sounds very lofty and if I'm in despair and someone tells me this, I'll probably show that person the finger. I understand the frustration cos I was once there. But then after I've awaken, it is clear to me that everything that happens around me is really part of the "program" my soul has chosen and I stop fighting it and let the divine take over. Since then, I've never felt more joy, peace and love. So let go of the need to control everything, trust that everything is how it is supposed to be, experience it fully and be in NOW :) Much love to you.