When you are alone you are not alone, you are simply lonely - and there is a tremendous difference between loneliness and aloneness. When you are lonely you are thinking of the other, you are missing the other.
Loneliness is a negative state. You are feeling that it would have been better if the other were there - your friend, your wife, your mother, your beloved, and your husband. It would have been good if the other was there, but the other is not. Loneliness is absence of the other.
Aloneness is the presence of oneself. Aloneness is very positive. It is a presence, overflowing presence. You are so full of presence that you can fill the whole universe with your presence and there is no need for anybody.
When there is no ″significant other″ in our lives we can either be lonely, or enjoy the freedom that solitude brings. When we find no support among others for our deeply felt truths, we can either feel isolated and bitter, or celebrate the fact that our vision is strong enough even to survive the powerful human need for the approval of family, friends or colleagues.
If you are facing such a situation now, be aware of how you are choosing to view your ″aloneness″ and take responsibility for the choice you have made. One of Gautama Buddha’s most significant contributions to the spiritual life of humankind was to insist to his disciples, ″Be a light unto yourself.″ Ultimately, each of us must develop within ourselves the capacity to make our way through the darkness without any companions, maps or guide.
Unless you drop your individuality you will not be able to find your personality. Personality is given by existence; individuality is imposed by the society. Individuality is social convenience. Society cannot tolerate personality, because personality will not follow like a sheep. Personality has the quality of the lion; the lion moves alone.
Ara, it's good to see you....;-] And yes, we ALWAYS have company....cheers, Drekx x
its good to see that you are still around ... ;))
and people-(in their prime, and very good looking dressed in futuristic clothing) from the Core who do the Monitoring too-haven't seen them lately;