As lightworker teams come together, one of the make-or-break situations they meet is whether the team has adequate conflict-reduction and conflict-resolution tools and resources.
I’d rather discuss only happy and pleasing matters, but please allow me also to address more serious and weighty issues.
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In the old Third Dimension, our ways of handling conflict varied on a range from fight-phobic to dramatic. The people who are fight-phobic would do anything to avoid conflict and the people who are dramatic often seem to enjoy conflict for its own sake.
The fight-phobic people may respond like deer in the headlights. They may wish that conflict would go away. They may avoid discussion aimed at resolving the issues. They may meet conflict with curt phrases like “everyone be happy” or “all you need is love.”
These means of addressing conflict usually don’t go far enough to address the issues that may have raised the conflict in the first place.
The dramatic people may have no interest in resolving conflict. They may enjoy the adrenaline rush of a good fight. They may hold views such as that there are no solutions, nothing ever works, people can’t be trusted, etc. Their modality of connecting with others may be to have a good argument with them.
The people in the middle may be regarded by the fight-phobic as being dramatic and by the dramatic as being fight-phobic. And so all remains at a standstill until the team disintegrates.
When a team coalesces, it may have passed through the honeymoon phase and the tug-of-war phase and be in coalescence only to find that it meets an issue on which there is substantial disagreement.
When it does, it could conceivably break apart if it cannot find a way of promoting a deep and thorough airing of differing philosophies and a willingness to find a common solution.
But what may happen instead is that the fight-phobic members may run and hide and the dramatic members may feed the flames of hostility.
One of the reasons I’ve been discussing our constructed selves is that these constructions we’ve made of ourselves, these boxes built from our own conditioning are what we substitute for the real parties to the discussion. One act talks to another. One vasana talks to another. And it isn’t easy to make known to team members that this may be happening.
Spirituality has a weighting towards light and love, so to speak.
It doesn’t tend necessarily towards deep and thorough discussions of issues. So we can at times be handicapped by the very thing which in the long run will be our source of release.
I’m mentioning this here because I believe there’s a great need, while we build Nova Earth, for people to come forward who have conflict-reduction and conflict-resolution skills.
This long financial drought that we’re going through before NESARA arrives, much longer than most of us probably expected, lowers the water in the river, exposing the rocks.
Whenever finances are tight, that is one circumstance that, I think, is guaranteed to expose people’s core issues.
One lightworker shared with me a reading with his guide through Linda Dillon.
He said that times seemed chaotic and asked the reason for it. The guide replied: “It is [about] getting down to bedrock, it is [about] getting down to core issues, it is [about] stripping away the masks, the illusion.” I agree and I think the comment has applicability to us as lightworkers.
When our core issues are exposed, those who don’t have the ability to see their own agendas, investments, acts, routines, etc., usually respond from the constructed self, positions become fixed, and people can leave. The weak spots in a team become visible and attempts to address them fail.
The situation is compounded because many have full lives outside their lightwork and lack the time to deal with issues extensively and because we never made agreements around handling conflict before we entered lightwork. The impact of the last factor is that enduring the feelings that arise from grappling with issues seems to be beyond our original agreement.
I trust that we as lightworkers are devoted to the successful completion of the tasks we came here for and thus are willing to look matters square in the eye and act to meet our challenges. I may be wrong in that belief. But if I am, then the chances of us being successful, in my estimation, decrease. And I personally don’t want to see that happen.
It’s one of my self-assigned tasks to address the hard issues in our common work together. That doesn’t mean I consider myself to be somehow far-seeing. Far from it. I can be a real jerk at times. I have my own investments and sore spots and trigger points.
If you somehow put me on a pedestal, that’s pure foolishness. Please don’t come to me later and say I should have lived up to your expectations. I never agreed to be pedestaled in the first place. I’m as human as you are and prone to mistakes. I believe that all who consent to mount a pedestal invite a fall.
I try to raise my issues, vasanas and acts to awareness as fast as I can so I can see that my inability or unwillingness to source or complete these elements of my constructed self that got me into difficulty in the first place - you didn’t “make me mad.” I triggered myself from my vasanas and I set myself up by acting from the inadequacy of my constructed self. My success rate in this is probably about average.
I see this as a serious undertaking we’re all engaged in as lightworkers working to address the Third-Dimensional residue in our world and win people’s trust to open to Ascension. In my view, it takes courage and resolve as well as love and compassion.
The outcome of our willingness to face each other squarely, entertain each other’s issues and get through them is a strong team, a team that can meet its challenges. The alternative is that we skirt our issues, make a foray into a challenging situation, meet our first obstacle, and crumble like a house of cards.
Source:http://goldenageofgaia.com/2013/04/we-may-meet-tough-challenges-in-...
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