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                  Dreamsicle > Michael March 19, 2013 at 9:56am

                  If you feel peace and love while surrounded by millions of angry, hateful, prejudice and aggressive individuals around... there's something wrong with you, and you're ability to "read a room". A sane person wouldn't be like, "oh hey, look at this angry mob I'm in the middle of, I'm all peace and love and la di da di da"... it's flight or fight, didn't you learn that term in school? Something you're not immune to because it's a survival instinct humans have. And if you've never had to use it, you've either had a very sheltered life, or your body lacks the ability to efficiently produce adrenaline for the flight/fight response. Because in that scenario, you have an increased potential for serious injury or death. And unless you broke something in your brain and you no longer value or regard your life, you're going to be concerned for your safety. Sure, you can still try to be calm and level headed to get your butt out of there asap, but any normal person would still be concerned for their safety and looking at people in the eyes within that angry mob with the "love and light vibe" isn't going to protect you anymore than shouting, "don't hurt me! I love you!"

                   

                  My point was all over the post. Since you felt compelled to throw around accusations... low reading comprehension = weakness. Superiority complex much? "You seem to be defending your actions"... what actions? You seem to be making assumptions. Also can be considered a weakness.

                   

                  In a normal, social situations where someone is verbally attacking you, you can either sit there and take it and look like a peon/piss-ant/doormat and possibly lose all respect from peers in that room... or you can stand up for yourself. Or you must not have any peers in that room if there's no one standing up for you, but then again, if you preach to your friends how to be and they listen, they wouldn't stand up for you because it would make them appear "less than" according to your standards... which I guess isn't an issue if you prefer to surround yourself with what you think are "less than" people to maintain the superior attitude you attempt to exude.

                   

                  Humans are not immune from aggressive behavior..... violent behavior - yes. Maybe dead humans (spirits) are immune because without the need to protect a physical body, there's no need for flight or fight. But living humans are not. And people are not "less than" for aggressive behavior which you're insinuating because it can actually come out in their favor and on top of someone who is "passive" depending on the situation.
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  Cedric March 18, 2013 at 6:05pm

  interesting. i seem to have the same problem lately. i never used to get mad or argue or fight. now it just keeps on comming. weird.and i do realy feel bad about it but it seems to come out of nowhere.
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  Butterfly March 18, 2013 at 5:24pm

  Sometimes we have grown in our spiritual walk, when we get to the point where we see plainly - 'hey I no longer want to engage in this behaviour'.  That could be when we have hurt someone with words, or physically.

   

  So it's a good point to be at, because we will then make sure we NEVER do this type of stuff again.  We are past it.  We don't want to hurt other's. When we see that we have hurt or wounded, we then feel a sense of remorse.  Remorse is good because it keeps us on the straight and narrow in a way.

   

  So you are feeling remorse perhaps?  That is good.  Now you'll most likely decide (within yourself) that you prefer to walk away rather than get into a fight - even if you do drink again.  That's a good thing.
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    Aurora Borealis > Butterfly March 18, 2013 at 8:34pm

    Yes i do. Much of it.. And i promised myself that i will never again engage in such fights! 
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  Dreamsicle March 18, 2013 at 4:02pm

  Well... it also depends on the type of alcohol. If I didn't have my own experiences and irl observations... I wouldn't know better... but different types sometimes really do have different effects. Like beer compared to vodka or tequila or wine coolers or rum or whiskey or even energy-drink beer. One person can have different personalities with each one of those drinks.. and even more different when combined.

   

  Also, the length of how many years the person has been drinking also seems to have an effect on someone's mental state while drinking. I've seen some people who were annoying little fairies for the first 10 years of their drinking ages, only to change down the road into something else... whether it be Debbie downers or aggressors.

   

  And I really have a pet peeve about when people say they did something because they were drinking. A lot of people like to pull the excuse that because they were drinking, their actions were excused... but um no. Lame excuse. Sure, alcohol lowers the shield that people normally have that prevent them from being honest... but you're still responsible for what comes out of your mouth and what you do.

   

  But as far as a friendly, happy girl (I assume) getting mean and defensive (or offensive?) while drinking... consider what instigated the "fight"... I doubt you went into the party and went, "alright stupid bitches, you suck and here's why!"... other people had a hand in the agitation I'm sure too. But if that IS how it went down, grats on having balls ;) lol

   

  Just RELAX. In a week or three you'll completely forget it ever happened and maybe even do something worse next time that completely makes everyone forget what happened last time. lol, or not.

   

  I know what it's like to feel like, "omg omg omg omg why did I do that last night?" only to convince myself, "ah well. shit happens... at least I didn't run around the neighborhood naked"... as far as someone being mean... maybe those people deserved it. Maybe it was the universe manifesting by trying to get the other people's eyes open to problems they wouldn't normally notice... if you want believe that. If you know the people personally and feel you must apologize, do it. But only if you mean it. Don't make a big fuss over it unless they do.
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    Aurora Borealis > Dreamsicle March 18, 2013 at 8:39pm

    Black wine and beer pretty much 
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      Moanna > Aurora Borealis March 18, 2013 at 9:24pm

      Hi Aurora :) just to say huge sympathy from us! lol.. my friend and I can't drink red wine anymore, or we argue.. and we aren't always sure what we are fighting about.. Also, energy is contagious. When around angry people it can be really hard to not get irritable too. Some of our friends had to switch to light beer, and there was an immediate improvement. :)
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        Aurora Borealis > Moanna March 18, 2013 at 9:35pm

        I think i will take it as a good advice :D
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  Aurora Borealis March 18, 2013 at 3:48pm

  It made me feel better just seeing you guys trying to make me feel better.

  And you did ;)
  
  I LOVE YOU ALL! :D <3<3
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  Aurora Borealis March 18, 2013 at 3:45pm

  Thank you Beato, Feather & Amanda
  
  I wont let it get me down, and i sure wont allow it to happen again!