Spiritual Forum

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  Ogdoo August 24, 2012 at 8:33pm

  I don't know how to explain this but a while ago I "became in love" with a girl as it's supposed to be named. And I don't know if there was an energetic bond or some chemicals that made me feel that way I did.

  I just felt that the time abscent of her presence made me feel literally sick. She was in my thoughs allmost constantly, and if I started to think about something else and then back to her it felt like a JOLT of electricity in my heart when she popped up again. Sadly for me it was kind of one-sided I think or I am a really shy guy so I didn't take it any further, but it took at least two week for this bond to entirely dissappear, even though today I like her a lot I don't feel that connected and in that state that "She is the only perfect girl in the world" anymore.

  Is this called love? I just felt I wanted sooo badly to be near her, and when I wasn't it just really hurt :P. I bet this is a nice thing if you use this bond to get together, but unfortunatley for me I had to endure pain and go the hard way by being abscent and let it fade.

  What are your thoughts on this?
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    ToxicDreamer > Ogdoo August 24, 2012 at 10:08pm

    I know how that is, and i've gone through it quite  a few times myself... it's like when it's been years since you've met a girl that you can have any meaningful conversation with. and then when you finally meet one, all you can think about is how happy you can be together. but then you think all the strong and instense emotions that come to surface would be too much and might make her uncomfortable, so you push them down and hide them, also in a time like this Rejection would probably devastate you, so you would rather not even try than to risk being rejected, or even misunderstood. :P
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      Ogdoo > ToxicDreamer August 24, 2012 at 10:52pm

      Ohh you absolutely read me like a book there xD. The mind really screws with you in periods like that "Shall I tell her something? No then it'll be too obvious, I'll just lay low" then you regret things for not taking steps etc. and the worst part of it all "What does she think of me? What if she have no feelings at all for me"

      It's this that are blockages, you might call it low self-esteem. Combine that with being quite shy to the nature as well, then you are in my position. I have never had a relationship in my entire life (21 years) and the reason why is quite obvious, somehow I don't focus to improve on that I just make up excuses like I don't look attractive enough or something that lame..

      Thought I don't feel like I NEED a relationship to survive, though it would be nice sometimes, I bet it can be nice being single as well sometimes to be alone too hehe. But when you get this unbreakable bond to someone and you just feel the only option is to suppress it its AGONY in pure form. But somehow you prefer that instead of what would happen if you showed your feelings, strange huh? 
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        ToxicDreamer > Ogdoo August 24, 2012 at 11:00pm

        lol yeah I suppose, I'm shy also, and I'm very self absorbed, so I'm always stuck in my own world thinking about other stuff, then when I see a girl I like I keep thinking about what I should say instead of actually saying something, the it becomes too late and I'm like "oh whatever". also I'm rarely in a good mood, and I can't flirt with a girl if I'm not in a good mood. it's very tricky
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          Ogdoo > ToxicDreamer August 24, 2012 at 11:06pm

          Indeed :) Too many social norms in our subconcious that shouldn't be there xD. I wish I could erase the "What if?" and just do things I feel like instead of holding myself back. I have a strong feeling I'm going to be one of those looking back at my life and asking "Why didn't I do this / that when I had the chance to?" which I allready do today ;p.

          It's pretty simple actually, you got nothing to lose. Why is that so hard to realize? It's like a barrier blocking you from doing certain things :s.
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            ToxicDreamer > Ogdoo August 24, 2012 at 11:11pm

            sometimes it's just a matter of "is it worth the effort" because if something is going to end up aggrivating me in the long run then I won't do it. I also feel like if I was under different social circumstances then I would be more social and talkative. another problem is when noone wants to talk about what I want to talk about... lol
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  Ima Scending August 24, 2012 at 6:31pm

  Tell that to my inner self.

  I still haven't been able to convince it that I do not own this planet. :)

  It's the same with all humans for me actually. I FEEL like all humans are My children.. And that is certainly weird because I really do not want that responsibility.. :)
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  Ima Scending August 24, 2012 at 4:51pm

  You can use Me as an example there.

  I LOVE earth, But I am also quite obsessed with it.. :)
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  STAR* August 24, 2012 at 11:43am

  I dont feel love and obsession are the same thing, because love is free of attachments ... it doesnt attach itself to anyone... love allows freedom... ITS NOT obsessive...

  its like how source/ god/ universe... allows us to be free of attachments... that IS true LOVE from source/ god/ divine...

  the 3d world has no idea of  what real love is.
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  Ima Scending August 24, 2012 at 10:55am

  There are different kinds of love.

  Parental love, romantic love, existentual love, spiritual love, emotional love and so on..

  Which one do you mean? Please specify.