Why do people feel the need to lie about themselves? Are they ashamed of their life? I have 2 siblings that seem to have to embellish their accomplishments, their jobs, their parenting skills, how they over came drugs and alcohol, how much they help others, ect........( you can get the picture) but I still don't get it, why they feel the need to embellish. I finally concluded they aren't ashamed of their life......they think they aren't worthy of praise, that they are some how convince that they aren't good enough. What a legacy to pass on to their children and they have, I see it all the time. The children lie about their lives, never really taking blame for their own mistakes. So they don't feel good enough either.
What is wrong with knowing yourself well enough to see what we feel insecure about or don't like or we find is offensive to others ( if that sorta thing matters to you) and change it. If some one has to lie about them self, you'd think they'd make an effort to change what they don't like. My saying is, God gave me 1 face and it is the face I show the world and look into the mirror, so I really really really need to be sure it's a face I'm willing to share with the world. God doesn't allow me to lie ( for real lying, not playing, making up crap like I tell the grandmonsters. Like I'll hang them up by their toe nails on the ceiling fan until their toe nails fall out. They never believe me, think it's because I don't have any ceiling fans? They just laugh at me. ) I mean, I really am not able to lie and it would save me a lot of head aches some times to be able to lie. Here's the thing though, how much could I like myself if I were to lie all the time or even some times.
There are some people who are braggarts, some liars and some who can't gage what their real value is to themselves or others. I wonder what category I fall into. Think it's time for a self evaluation.
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I've made SO many mistakes in the past 26 years of my life. But with people lying to themselves with everything past, present and or future. Some people they feel lying to others isn't a big deal it won't effect others around them or personally I feel they just don't care. That's how I truly deeply feel inside. Like I told you before I've made many mistakes in my life but most of them I could fix (some sadly I could not), I'm not the lying or having an ego type (I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world and I like to know that I'm not!!) Lying actually tears in up inside so deeply. (that I really get sick) I do not like those negative ways, if you can't tell me the truth or lie and pretend about your past to make you look better, then your a fake and a lair and I have no time for people like them.. I'm very truthful to the fault and I've put my foot in mouth many times but I would rather get ANY truth told to me, no matter how much it hurt, then having a "fake" lie "just to make me feel better", because it wouldn't make me feel at all I would actually feel appalled.. If anyone would ask me a question I would be 100% truthful and it would be coming from my heart:o) I love and feel too much for myself and love I have for my family and my others, then to become a "liar" there are no such thing as "good lie" . Sorry for my rant my dear brothers and sisters, I dislike lying in any way shape or form... I give u all so much Love and Light *~SamanthA~*
Yea I agree with you on that Peekay. I think that's exactly why they do it. It's an ego puffer, it makes them feel good about themselves, to think oh I'm a Sirian, I'm a Pleiadean, I'm an Andromedan. It's the same reason people feel a sense of self worth from their country lol Oh I'm an American! It's all group identity, and it's really part of the illusion. We're all people...we're all souls, we're all beings....first and foremost. We're all individual expressions of one big whole called life. All this grouping and categorizing is secondary, at best. Again, what happens if you take it all away, take the illusory universe away...take all outside identification away....what are you left with. Your true self, your I AM. That's really our true identity.
Well I think it's pretty simple...they're not living in integrity. They're not real people. I meet alot of people like that lol In fact I rarely ever meet a real person...ever.
Me I try to be the realest person I can be. I'm the same whether I'm alone with myself, or with a crowd of people. I don't change. No matter who I'm talking to, it could be my mom, my friends, a person at the store, a policeman, no matter who...I just always am myself, and that's it. It's part of being true to yourself and living in integrity. And some people just haven't learned how to keep it real and just be themselves...ultimately because they aren't secure with themselves.
I think people brag for similar reasons, they aren't really sure of themselves, or connected to themselves, so to brag makes them feel bigger, or better. It gives them a sense of self worth, of identity. But ultimately what happens if all those things are stripped away, where's your self worth gonna come from then? I think, ultimately the idea is to have a sense of self worth and self love....just because. No conditions needed, just because I am, I exist. That's the only real reason I need. Everything else is good too, they're extensions of me, their expressions of my being...and it's ok to feel good and be proud of it. But ultimately....my real true self, is just pure being...pure awareness...and I don't need a real reason to feel good about my being, or to love being me. I think that's something we'll all have to learn, eventually. To stop looking for outside identification for a sense of self, or self worth, or self love.