Trust
by Just me
What do we know about trust? Not much right, perhaps it because we have had so much infiltration of deception, misgivings and lies that it has become very difficult to trust anyone especially at this time on the planet.
When I look at this in my own perspectives, based on my own experiences I say to self, in every aspect of my life there has been actions of deception, misgivings and lies. Every aspect! So as I begin to scan the areas this relates to in my past I begin to ask myself what did I learn?
Interestingly enough, I want to immediately say, I learned to not trust anyone, but instead I try to go deeper. I want this because I know there are areas within me that I truly need to find understanding. So, I go deeper and say what lesson is in this action of deception towards me that I must learn from. I found that this can be difficult to do, because I was hurt in the midst.
Once I have been able to get past the hurt of re-examination, I ask myself lovingly again, what is the lesson or understanding in this particular incident(s). I truly am seeking healing, guidance of higher self and understanding. At this point many things may begin to come to mind and I did, and you may even feel a bit sick to your stomach at first as it comes to the surface. Ask your guides, guardians and higher self to help with this, I did.
Sometimes pictures come to mind as if it’s a movie replaying in the mind’s eye… its ok. Just let it roll and this is my experience of processing the information… or preparation of purging. Many times the understandings that we get are not at all what we thought, mostly because of wanting to blame.
Letting go of the blame and seeing it for what it truly is …Is the key to unlocking the door of trust once again. I say this because I have experienced it. This doesn’t happen overnight necessarily, especially when you have been in my shoes/experiences. But it can happen if you allow it to. A little at a time is good.
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I have found that shifting this old energy pattern into careful discernment, not based on hurts, but understandings becomes a very valuable tool. Especially in the ever shifting of the waves we find ourselves riding today.
I know and understand the pain many feel from deceptions, misgivings and blatant lies and I also know that the reason I experienced these times were so I could relate to so many others. In relating to others, I feel I am able to be of use in helping; to heal from my own personal experiences and how I was able to overcome them and learn to trust once again, as is my desire for others.
Do I do this the same as I always did, no not necessarily? It takes discipline within the self, not jumping to conclusion based on my own experiences… because even though I have understanding of hurts, I am not that other person and I have not lived there experiences. However, I can share how I was able to open my heart once again and this is how we can learn to trust others again…. but mostly ourselves.
In closing, I have found that more often than not, it’s the mind that tricks us. Not the heart, however the heart can be closed off and heavily guarded from all the hurts and experiences and that is something for all to ponder upon.
My love to all, Aly
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Hey Aly. Sorry for taking so long to respond, I've been all over the place lately. I think self love should come naturally, without any conditions. I know it's harder to do than say, but...ultimately we gotta learn how to do that. Ultimately we have to go within and value ourself....because, who else is supposed to value us, to make us value ourselves....other people? Should other people's definition of value define our value for us? We know that's an illusion.
Everyone has value. God doesn't create valueless beings. It really is an illusion to think our value is limited. Why would we let other peoples lack of love and respect, define our value and worth. It's an illusion, but we have to learn to grow out of that, and go within to find our own value and love of self.
I understand too, people put high expectations on themselves... I do that alot. I don't really have an issue with other peoples opinions, it's more me....I place real high expectations on myself....I'm just supposed to be everything, and if I'm not, I feel like I'm failing and I get down on myself about it. I feel like less of a person, I guess. And I know that's an illusion, because I'm not perfect...but just because I'm not perfect, doesn't mean I'm not a great person of value. Doesn't mean I shouldn't love myself.
I'm just real hard on myself, and I think that's probably a bigger issue for people than what others think, it's what they think of themselves. People are way too hard on themselves...and we need to cut ourselves some slack. I think that's a good start. And our lives largely depend on what we think of ourselves, how we view ourselves....so why not just view ourselves in the greatest light possible, even if it's not real...it'll become real lol That really is a good way to start loving ourselves.
I discovered a way to take some of the sting out of trust issues... instead of not trusting someone for whatever reason, I like to frame the trust or not trust question in a less personal manner by merely realizing that it is the person's judgement that is not to be trusted rather than the whole person.
by the way didja know how they say f**k you in L.A.? "trust me" :)
trust...hmmm...trust no man...now when you pray, meditate, connect with Divine Source...then you ask to be guided...your path becomes lit..we need alot of connecting to torus..the energies surrounding our earth...find me in there and connect..all us...i wrote a poem long ago called ALL US...again, trust no man or you will be disappointed...there is this Divine Source...and i will swear on my life this is true..Divine Source wants time alone with you....much love to you
I've always considered Casper as an archetype spirit.
Dear Aly,
I AM just like so many others on here.
I just call it how I see. :).
WE ARE DIVINE SOVEREIGN BEINGS OF LIGHT
Loving this game.
Very, very much.
WE ARE (undeniably) DIVINE SOVEREIGN BEINGS OF LIGHT :)
Do I feel another poem coming on???
WE ARE DIVINE SOVEREIGN BEINGS OF LIGHT
I honor your courage in self examination Aly.
It is no easy task to make yourself accountable for that which happens in your life.
And your efforts with respect to this are evident in the ease and grace with which you conduct yourself.
Lack of trust in anything can inevitably be traced back to lack of trust in self - a lack of love.
If you have trust in yourself then there is no situation that can frighten you, or surprise you.
Trust in self gives you the resources to turn off the "radar" and roll with the punches in any given situation.
Trust in self gives you behavioural flexibility. true empowerment.
There is something you can always trust when dealing with other people. That they will always act in a way that is consistent with who they are. So if they do "bad things" you can trust that. it saves for arguments on both sides if you accept they are who they are. If they are untrustworthy, you can trust that. And then you can choose whether you want them in your life or not. and if you do, you can expect them to be untrustworthy. And make allowances and preparations for that. Don't create a situation where they can prove their untrustworthiness to you, and then complain about it to them. They are not obliged to make your life easier and change if you have decided to have them in your life.
All in my humble opinion of course.
Namaste.
WE ARE DIVINE SOVEREIGN BEINGS OF LIGHT
Well thanks Aly. I'd say I've always been that way, I just have this rock hard self belief...I'm not really sure where it comes from. I've had alot of experiences though, that tested that. Even when everything in my outside world told me I was some small nothing, a zero...I always felt deep down, that no...that's not true, I'm somebody great. So that faith in myself never waivers.
As for faith in others, I've had relationships that ended badly....and it tested my ability to trust and love, and whether I was worthy of love. But it never was a big thing, I just never lost that openness...I open myself to people very easily, and it's a raw state to be in, because usually people aren't as open as you. I give my love very easily, I always have....I still feel like I'm worthy of the highest love and respect, for no real reason. You don't need a reason, that's the trick. Just because you exist, you are...and that's what you choose. When you start limiting it, and putting conditions on it, that's what gets you into trouble.
You don't need a reason to love yourself, that's the whole trick. Just because you are, you exist...you're in this life, that's all the reason you need. And when you have that self love, then a self belief comes naturally...you don't limit yourself out of fear....and you're more open and you trust easier, because you're not really afraid of being hurt.
It's the old love and fear idea....and I'm not saying I don't have any fears, I have alot of fears actually, I've had so many moments of heartbreak and sorrow.....but I've learned that...when a fear comes, or pain comes...to let it come and experience it and don't be afraid of it. That just makes it worse. Eventually you'll learn to adapt to any change, adapt to the unknown...and keep calm and centered. It really boils down to that, the old idea is right....either you choose love...or you choose fear. Either you let yourself be in love, or in fear. It takes alot of discipline...trust me it does lol But in the end....choosing love is the better way to go.
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