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  John Jancar January 3, 2013 at 1:42pm

  Now that is great advice, Custos. I went through that phase too, and that's exactly what happens. You become more of yourself...and you define your own values and your own desires for yourself and what you want to do and be....as you break free from other peoples expectations of you. Ultimately you are you...you're living your life, and you have to be true to you and your soul....but first you have to get in touch with your soul lol And to do that, you kind of have to disconnect from everyone else....and society...and just be alone with yourself. It's an important phase to go through...actually.
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  John Jancar January 3, 2013 at 1:34pm

  I went through a phase like this, where no matter what I tried to do...it wasn't working. Sometimes people go through phases like this, where you're not supposed to "do" anything, per se...except just "be"...and get in touch with your self, your inner being.

  I suggest...study, learn some things, explore different avenues of life...and see what you feel drawn to. You'll know what you're supposed to do, when the time is right...until then, don't let yourself get suckered into feeling low about yourself, because you don't have a job or aren't "doing anything with your life", like people would define it. This phase right now, of getting in touch with yourself...is probably the most important thing you could be doing with your life, not just to grow more into yourself, but to set you on the path of what you're really supposed to do, and be. Working some odd job now, or going to school...just to mold into society's expectations....might actually end up robbing you of that. Life knows what it's doing, it's best to just go with the flow.
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    RedSpectralDragon > John Jancar January 4, 2013 at 3:37am

    thank you very much and your very right about studying and learning new things, thank you
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  turtles December 29, 2012 at 9:30pm

  There are lots of ways to end the fight within. It is good that you are so young and already awaire, seeking peace. Meditation, yoga, visualizations (powerful combination those three) A young persons spirituality meetup group, dharma center for guidance and inspiration.
  
  You are not stuck you only feel stuck. Change your focus from feeling stuck to something else. Maybe set a goal and make a gratitude list. Action....Make a choice and take action.
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    John Jancar > turtles January 3, 2013 at 1:59pm

    Well maybe feeling stuck, is exactly where he's supposed to be lol He feels stuck, because he's caught in a bind...where he doesn't really want to do anything, yet he feels he should be...to mold into his own expectation of himself, based on society most likely.

    Well, if you feel, inside you...that now's a time to be doing nothing...follow that. Don't fight it, or fight yourself....go with it. Allow yourself that freedom. Eventually, it'll sort itself out...you'll discover more of you, and what you're drawn to...a higher calling, not just doing something for the sake of doing something.
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      turtles > John Jancar January 4, 2013 at 3:32pm

      I was once in a fight with myself to do yoga. I would walk out the door to go and then I would turn around again to not go. I thought to myself I really need a rest day. It is different if you plan to go or not plan to go and then do the plan. It is the choice and making it in the mind as to go or to not go and then accepting the choice you made inside you. Sometimes before yoga I will start to hear these thoughts.....the thoughts start to chime away like bells of why I should not go. I notice and watch the thoughts, and go anyways because it is very important to me.
      
      If you are fighting with yourself as to get chocolate ice cream or vanilla. You make a choice in regards to the ice cream. And accept it. Sampling is always great too...:)
      It is important to find what makes your heart sing.
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        turtles > turtles January 5, 2013 at 12:08am

        I think we fight with ourselves when we are eating or have the chocolate but are clinging and grasping for the vanilla. Or we see them in front of us but are clinging to a meal we ate a week ago. So in having the chocolate eat it and let go.
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  lalit December 29, 2012 at 6:58pm

  this too shall pass.

  be true to / with the calling within.
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  SuperDave December 29, 2012 at 3:26am

  You're not supposed to "do" anything with your life.  You're actually supposed to "be".  If you let go, you'll find you're in the right state of mind to bring what you want to yourself.  Teal Scott explains this the best :

  http://youtu.be/HCKBnXOG5uM

  Possibly just picture what you would find to be the most interesting thing you would want to do.  Write it down on paper.  Next, write what you see as your most outstanding characteristics; the good,  then the not-so-good.

  Mitchell Gibson has a video on how to work with yourself:  

  Nine Insights For A Successful And Happy Life Book Trailer

  I personally suggest finding work in an area you suspect you will at least have a slight ability to allow your best abilities to be brought out.  If this isn't what you want (just because you have a "job" doesn't mean you're working), try the imagination exercises.  Some at the end of their rope go on a quest of sorts.  This occurred with Peter Jenkins, author of "A Walk Across America",  he basically threw his hands in the air and went for a walk, gaining insight from raw experiences, forcing himself to be humble enough to accept charity (and the occasional tough job) to survive on a long journey cross-country.   Basically, you'll find that most people are "faking it" to a certain extent.  Rarely will you find individuals who haven't in some way sacrificed part of who they are to "fit in".  Just do your best not to do this.  Get around people who are successful in one way or another.  Success comes in all sorts of forms.  It's not necessarily accompanied with wealth or status.  Life, you'll find, is hard work.  But the joy is in the doing, and you will learn much if you have an open mind and open heart.  This is all you need.  No school, job, person, can teach you this.  You must learn it yourself.  The open heart/mind will bring the necessary people and coincidences your way,  What you desire in life will bring exactly those people and events to pass.  If you're in fear, you'll meet people who are fearful as you are.  If you are courageous you'll meet courageous people.  It comes with experience.  Remember, everyone starts somewhere, it's no different for anyone.  
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    Marique > SuperDave December 29, 2012 at 6:02am

    great advice...