When you are alone you are not alone, you are simply lonely - and there is a tremendous difference between loneliness and aloneness. When you are lonely you are thinking of the other, you are missing the other.
Loneliness is a negative state. You are feeling that it would have been better if the other were there - your friend, your wife, your mother, your beloved, and your husband. It would have been good if the other was there, but the other is not. Loneliness is absence of the other.
Aloneness is the presence of oneself. Aloneness is very positive. It is a presence, overflowing presence. You are so full of presence that you can fill the whole universe with your presence and there is no need for anybody.
When there is no ″significant other″ in our lives we can either be lonely, or enjoy the freedom that solitude brings. When we find no support among others for our deeply felt truths, we can either feel isolated and bitter, or celebrate the fact that our vision is strong enough even to survive the powerful human need for the approval of family, friends or colleagues.
If you are facing such a situation now, be aware of how you are choosing to view your ″aloneness″ and take responsibility for the choice you have made. One of Gautama Buddha’s most significant contributions to the spiritual life of humankind was to insist to his disciples, ″Be a light unto yourself.″ Ultimately, each of us must develop within ourselves the capacity to make our way through the darkness without any companions, maps or guide.
Unless you drop your individuality you will not be able to find your personality. Personality is given by existence; individuality is imposed by the society. Individuality is social convenience. Society cannot tolerate personality, because personality will not follow like a sheep. Personality has the quality of the lion; the lion moves alone.
Ara welcome back...So right about loneliness...It is a misconception to think that we are alone, and then loneliness to me means that we are still in the dream of this 3rd dimension....I am always very happy to be able to have my own time and be with my self...Although time is also a misconception..I am right now experiencing the "rejection" or misunderstandings of my family, and yet that is making me stronger ...I realize I am where I need to be...In reality I see it as a way for them to guide me in the right direction which is my path...Blessings to you..
Perception is everything for sure, we can change the results of our lives through our observation and views of it. The reality is how we perceive it to be, and if we are not aware of something – it does not exist in our subjective reality. If we want it to exist – start perceiving it.
However, every human need to share experience and have connection, and if not it brings loneliness, only those who is self-sufficient within can stand alone.
I have never experience loneliness before, however I am experiencing both right now ... interesting, a bit conflicting, nevertheless - good lesson.
Family certainly brings out the best or worse, if we want to find peace, i guess we have to learn how to find it in 'battle' - if it make sense.
Certainly Ara...Perception is what we have, each of us and as you said we can change what we see or perceive which sometimes what we believe to be true is not clear enough...What we perceive is our individual reality, yet as our perception is more clear, higher and of the Light we begin to "see", feel and know truth... As I perceive it we are living in a fixed reality or dream...As we start perceiving truth then we leave behind this dream for what is real...We are learning and with that I think comes distortions of what is true for the purpose of understanding both sides of ourselves... I believe that truth is only one even though we each have our own truths, and we move,and go through it as we see fit in truth there is only one Truth...I perceive that as we ascend we are leaving all that is not real, not of truth...That is my perception of life here on Earth...With much Love to you...We need more like you here...Ara...I am glad you decided to come and visit...
I used to HATE being alone, because I HATED myself; now I love myself and I love being alone!
I always felt that you have a strong spirit Darkstar - a fighter.