“You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” - Lucille Ball
I came across this quote many years ago and I’ve never forgotten it. to my fourteen year old self it was just words but part of me understood that the concept was profound. I had no idea how true this statement is but I do now.
While I realize that the term love yourself is probably one of the most overused pieces of jargon out there. What the hell does it even mean? Love yourself. I’ve always glazed over when I heard anyone throw the phrase around.
Why am I even thinking about this quote or the phrase learning to love yourself?
Because I have seen with just about every person I’ve worked with, every student I’ve had that the biggest stumbling block to building a successful business to moving forward in life is lack of self-love.
I’ve seen so many talented practitioners who do brilliant work but can’t move forward with their business not because they don’t know what to do, but because they can’t get themselves to do it. They don’t believe in themselves singularly, wholeheartedly, and without reservation.
And what is confidence really? A form of self love.
It’s the belief in yourself that you can do it and you are worthy to be where you want to be.
Confidence also requires some courage. And courage requires self love.
Putting yourself out there- self love
I’ve never been able to say to anyone, well here’s how you practice self love.
and I’ve never been able to get that answer from anyone in a way that made sense to me.
But I’ve noticed over the years the actions we take that affirm our self love. Here are nine things I know about cultivating self-love:
1. Tune into your gut: Trust your feelings about things and don’t be dismissive with yourself. Your feelings are valid or they wouldn’t be there. Pay attention to them and acknowledge them. They are your compass.
2. Speak your Truth: when something is bothering you, communicate. You don’t necessarily need to tell someone off, but saying how you feel without anger or intimidation is an act of self-love.
3. Get On Your Own Team: Stop talking about how your life isn’t working, those 10 lbs you can’t seem to lose, your lack of will power, the relationship you can’t seem to find, your lack of financial security, what a lousy world it is.
What you focus on grows. The more you focus on what’s not working and what you don’t have the more that becomes your experience.
Here’s a quote from the book “The Soul Of Money” by Lynn Twist that states the concept
“We think we live in the world. We think we live in a set of circumstances but we don’t. We live in our conversation about the world and our conversation about the circumstances. When we’re in a conversation about fear and terror, about revenge and anger and envy and comparison then that’s the world we inhabit.”
If we’re in a conversation about possibility, a conversation about gratitude and appreciation for the things in front of us, then that’s the world we inhabit.
Talking about what ‘s not working gives you more of the same and what you appreciate, appreciates.
4. Ask for what you want. Speak up for yourself. If you don’t nobody else will.
5. Ask for help when you need it AND let yourself receive help when it is given. I know more women who run around doing everything for others who not only never ask for anything for themselves but also won’t let anyone do anything for them. And underneath they’re seething about it. So they overeat, shop too much, or drink too much trying to make up for what they’re not allowing themselves to receive.
6. Focus as much energy on doing things that make you happy as you do on working. treating yourself like the hired help isn’t very loving. Taking care of yourself and taking as many opportunities for fun and delight is. You deserve to feel good. Operate from full instead of empty.
7. Quit waiting for circumstances or someone to validate you or your work. Stop thinking you’re not ready, or that you’re not there yet. We’re all a work in progress. Start where you are with what you have and do what you can. Say YES to yourself and your dreams. Say it as often as you can and take the actions you need to to back it up.
8. Not everyone will get you. Especially if you’re being totally true to yourself. You can’t be all things to all people. Focus on the people who do get you and ignore everyone else.
9. No matter what happened in the past, no matter how broken, damaged, or dysfunctional you feel- every moment is a chance for a fresh start including this one. The past doesn’t dictate the present-the thoughts you hold about yourself and your situation do.
You can choose happiness
And always remember, you are loved.
Cathy Wilke is a business alchemist and marketing coach who helps holistic practitioners, coaches and healers create marketing that incorporates their deep and powerful story. Cathy created The Yoga Of Marketing, a business building program that helps those who are trying to make a difference in the world get to the next level in their business so their great work can shine. You can find her at www.freedomandfulfillment.com http://www.freedomandfulfillment.com
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