How to deal with a twin flame?

i have come across a twin flame of mine. I see myself in him. Initially I saw all the good things. but now I see all the bad things. I am learning to deal with them. And the learning is so much faster than any other relationship learning I ever had. But it comes with a price. Its brutal, and hurtful and I want to deal with it by seeing it as a third person. But that is so difficult. Because I constantly see two versions of myself... What should I do?

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Permalink Reply by hunter on September 10, 2012 at 10:00pm

relax

enjoy

and hang in there untill you like your other same self as much as you love them ?

(or not )

loved

enjoy

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Permalink Reply by Anupriya Srivastava on September 10, 2012 at 10:21pm

Thanks. Its just a lil difficult! But i will try to relax!

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Permalink Reply by Anupriya Srivastava on September 10, 2012 at 10:22pm

You reminded me of this poem :)

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Permalink Reply by BlueSky~Valerie on September 14, 2012 at 3:59pm

Awesome poem and so meant for these times and the Twin relationship for sure.

Tho I totally understand where Anupriya is coming from, We think of Twin flame relationships as being miraculous, and all hunky dory, like nar a problem should there be. but in truth, they came when they did to force/push the last of our fears to the surface in order for us to see them and then let them go.

You are right Anupriya, when you say "The learning is so much faster" and much more intense.

This poem really says it well how to tread, as lightly as possible.

Not only are the energies around us intense, put that together with your Twin, and both of you having unfinished business not only together but with every past, every little thing still needing to be let go of and you have a recipe for going from 0 to 60 within seconds.

and only seconds later, looking around at the mess you've found yourself in, scratching your head saying, now how did that happen, and even Why did that happen.

It is helpful, really helpful to realize first and formost that ANYTHING that come to us from outside, no matter who brings it to us, really comes from inside of us, no matter what is being said or done to us, if it affects us, it has to do with how we are still feeling and dealing with ourselves!!!

Tho it is hard, it is so good to take a step back, to take time for ourselves, and ponder the feelings being brought up. and of course to deal with them as often as possible.

Also to realize that this counter part/Twin, comes with baggage too, it is not possible for one of you to be there and the other not!!! Its not all you, its not all him, but it is still in the dealing with our own issues first and foremost. The Twin more than anyone can make us look at ourselves in ways we don't want to which can make for resentment. It doesn't matter what they are doing, all that matters is how we feel, and if we feel it, we have to deal with and heal it!!!! Blessings and protection on your journey, Valerie

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Permalink Reply by Anupriya Srivastava on September 14, 2012 at 7:02pm

Your last lines really ring a bell... I took all the advice given here and by other friends and family. I have faced my fears... There are many more... But I can deal with it because I have a powerful tool now : : LOVE...
I realized the more my twin fires back at me, more loving I have to become. This is the only way for me... Can't say for others... And now even if he says something hurtful, I Smile... Because I realize he is me, and how can I be angry at myself?
I look at him as I look at a 5 year old kid... With nothing but love... even when this child does something hurtful.

But the only thing that I cant figure out is how to get rid of his past and his baggage... He is still living in the past... Then again I think... Am I the one who is suppose to help in clearing his baggage too?

The one thing I am doing consciously is "trying not to avoid him". Because I am so peaceful now... I feel extremely uncomfortable when he brings up his past and it annoys me. But I must be patient with him I think.

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Permalink Reply by Anupriya Srivastava on September 14, 2012 at 7:04pm

And thank you so much for your wonderful reply...!!! I can connect with it on all levels.

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Permalink Reply by BlueSky~Valerie on September 14, 2012 at 9:13pm

I see there are a few of us here anyway lol,

I often send out Love, instead of bemoaning how upset I was or he made me, when it comes up in my mind I send love.

I also send forgiveness, not just to this relationship but others as well. I just repeat I forgive you, I forgive you as well as just saying the word like Love in their direction.

Now thats telling Anupriya, that you say you are extremely uncomfortable and annoid, when he brings up the past, telling on you that is.

Try using some of these words, Love or forgiveness, and see how that affects it.

Patience and Love are key, but there ain't no cure for just bad behavior, and we don't ever have to accept that from anyone twin or no!!!!! Valerie

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Permalink Reply by geonic on September 10, 2012 at 10:31pm

just a quick heads up that I am going through same thing right now, and is nuts to say the least. . I will have to post here again after all the storms settle. . (uggg). . and something about it all begins to make some sense. . if ever at all

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Permalink Reply by Anupriya Srivastava on September 11, 2012 at 7:10am

Thanks for sharing this. I feel like I am not alone. :)
And yes it's so crazy. I think I learning a lot.
Let me know when the storm settles and your experience of the same. :)

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Permalink Reply by Louise on September 11, 2012 at 8:20am

Yes I have the storm too. It irritates me more than anything ever has and sometimes i'm wanting to run for the hills. I feel bad though when I guess they are mostly my hangups. Like Geo will post again when I make head and tail of it. What a blast though hehe, it is learning in the fast lane :)

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Permalink Reply by geonic on October 4, 2012 at 6:19am

. . out of nowhere I seemingly wanted to write this here ;D xD so bear with thy ;)

things. . hmmm xD. . have been going better? I think :). . after all this time, haha, I don't have much to say. . mm. . perhaps ;). .

. . was like. . mmm. . lets seee xD. . hell, heaven mixed in an endless curveball of a storm that at times made like. . zippo sense. . I am not sure if I learned anything at all. . or maybe I have. . all I know is. . this person. . this person I don't believe I will need to get run over anymore. . was like a transport truck ;D. . yea lots of fun. . dodging craziness. .

. . just my thoughts lol. . after all this time :). .thankyou for writing this blog. . again ty :). . figured I'd touch base here, after my loonge silence. . I think I'm kinda happy. . which is good :)

why am I sharing all this. .mm. . cause I want to :) <3. . cheers.