Today is Beautiful. Every day is beautiful, but none more than today. Today is really the only day there ever is. That’s the funny thing people sometimes don’t stop to think about. We talk about our life in todays, tomorrows, yesterdays, next weeks and last months. But when you really look at it there is only ever today. You don’t wake up in tomorrow. You never experience life in last week. It’s always now. It’s always today.
Now as I’ve come to understand it there are 3 ways to live your life, you can live in the past, you can live in the future or you can live in the present. Obviously the goal is to be living in the present. Unfortunately the majority of people don’t realize the differences. People tend to get stuck living in there past by thinking about all the things they regret in there life or wish they still had. While others are to busy constantly planning and thinking about all the things they want to do with there life to the point where they never actually spend there time doing what’s needed to be done to get there. In this blog though I will be focusing on the latter the people who live in there past, more specifically relating it to my own story of living in the past. I hope that it can inspire others to start taking a look at there own life and bringing themselves into the now moment.
I’ve let go of all my yesterdays, last months, last weeks, because I realized the only moment that is ever truly worth thinking about is today, it’s now. Now is the moment that defines you. You shape who you are in every moment, even by reading this you are making a choice to continue and open your mind to an idea that may make you better. You are making a choice to improve yourself, to allow yourself to be inspired & that is truly the most inspiring thing of all; you choose what your experience becomes by what you spend your moments doing. If you are to caught up in what you did or didn’t do in the last moment then you are never able to do the right thing now!
Thinking and complaining about anything that has ever happened in your past is only bringing you into each moment now with that negative sentiment in mind influencing how you react to the situations you are currently experiencing. You have to shed that extra baggage, that past feeling of negativity and allow yourself to come into every experience you live now with a clear mind. This is the only way you can take advantage of your own life to properly respond to each and every situation. Don’t let past experiences dictate how you shape your life.
I didn’t get over this hump until the day I got lost and had a long time to think about what got me into that situation. I came to realize some things when I began to think about what had brought me to that point, what I had done to put myself in that situation? I had let my anger directed at my past build up for so long that every situation I came across I only found the negative points to concentrate on. This led me to over react to a situation at work and I walked off the construction site even though I had no idea where I was since we had carpooled into site & I slept on the way. I didn’t have my cell phone or my wallet, yet I was so enraged that I neglected the very thing that should’ve been precious to me, my life. I didn’t ask how to get home, I just kept walking, I was too angry to ask, and unfortunately for me I was also to shy to “bother” a stranger for the answer.
As I began to dissect the direct situation that had brought me there I realized that it was really my entire life that led me to that point. I had been so concentrated on my past that I never allowed myself to actually make any right decisions to make my life better then what it was. The situations that were constantly on my mind throughout my life, I blamed for where I was at every moment, every stage of my life including this one. When I was thirteen I set a goal to be a millionaire by the time I was nineteen. I was a bright kid, with the right mindsetI probably could’ve done it but I let my inner demons, my negative memories tear me apart as I got older. It was a thought pattern that only grew.
As I tried to find my way home I made the decision that I would use the time to figure my life out. I was determined to get home a new man. I decided to continue breaking down all the crappy situations in my life that I had deemed brought me to where I was. I thought about my parents divorce, my mom having an affair, my mom not taking me out much growing up leading to extreme shyness, my stepfathers negative attitude towards my father, my failed relationships, dropping out of college due to moving out of my parents house. The list was long and fortunately for me the walk was longer and it was exactly what I needed. I was able to think them all through and the common thread I found was that I was blaming other people for every situation I deemed as negative.
I didn’t take responsibility for my own life. In reality it was all how I reacted to each and every situation in my life that resulted in the next set of options and paths that were laid in front of me. Growing up constantly holding a grudge about my parents divorce just led me to think negatively about every situation I didn’t deem as appropriate in my head that occurred with my stepfather and mother. That feeling only ever snowballed because that is the feeling that I held dominantly in my mind. For instance I may have not developed good social skills from not having the best teachers, but I ultimately held that trait years later myself. Even though I knew it was an issue I preferred to blame it on someone else instead of working on overcoming it. The choice was made by me to remain that way, not by anyone else.
This realization changed my life. I understood why I was so unhappy. I finally realized what being happy was, or at least a step to attaining it. Happiness for me was realizing that I was in ultimate control of my own life, no one else. Once I came to this conclusion I was able to let go of it all. I haven’t thought negatively about my past since. I hold no grudges with my parents anymore and actually have a much better relationship with them then I ever have. We still may not see eye to eye but I don’t let that come between my love for them like I once did. The things I spent my time thinking about were only holding me back, causing me to make more and more bad decisions. Once you learn that thinking negatively about your past is thinking negatively about what has shaped you into who you are today, only then will you be able to overcome the issues and create the life you love. That’s how I did it. Essentially thinking negatively aboutyour past experience is thinking negatively about yourself. When you can catch your mind up to where your body is living… it’s a profound thing. You’ll finally be living in now in every sense of the word. You will truly be able to take advantage of today!
On a small scale you can think of The Secrets example of waking up in the morning and stubbing your toe, that negative sentiment if you allow it to only begins to snow ball the way you look at the rest of your day, and how it goes. That frustration only leads you to have more negative feelings that can affect the rest of your day’s outcome. Just imagine how your day would go if you were brought your favorite breakfast in bed in the morning by the man or woman of your dreams. It would probably end up being a great day, because you’d be carrying a completely different energy with you. Now take the small scale and widen your perspective over the full course of your life like I was able to on my extremely long walk. It can snowball or build up in just the same way. I picked a negative point in my life being my parents divorce and let it effect my perception on my experiences from that moment forward, and the feelings of negativity only grew effecting my outlook and response to every situation.
Now I take the time to ensure my moments are spent doing exactly what I love. I’ve positioned myself in life, to be exactly where I feel I need to be in order to sustain my happiness, in each and every today I experience. That isn’t to say my life is perfect, I’ve just focused myself on my ambition & have begun to work towards them every moment. So in my perception I guess my life is perfect, cause I’m no longer focusing on negative experience.
What matters is that I am working towards my goals, you see as crazy as it might sound my ambition cut down to the bare bone is that I want to be happy. I’ve realized that happiness is going after my ambitions, doing what I love. I love business, always have always will, but I also have an uncanny desire to help the people around me. To spread happiness, to spread love, to spread a smile! I feel like the only thing I want to do in this world is help make the lives of everyone happier. I want to be someone who spreads a message of hope, of love, of a peaceful existence. I lived my life is despair for so long, trapped in my own mind, I want nothing more then to help others overcome that same struggle. So I set up this blog and now I write (along with many other things), to start off it might not be that good but I know as I continue it will only get better. I realize that if I just sit here thinking about what I want to do instead of taking any initiative and doing it, I’m never going to get anywhere. Thinking about what you want to do instead of doing it is only putting your mind in tomorrow, without actually taking advantage of today.
Realizations that change the way you live your life and ultimately shape your life don’t come by often, but when they do I feel it’s our duty to try and spread what we’ve learned through our experience to help others attain that same happiness or realization. What I speak of on this blog is all going to be what I have come to learn from the experiences of my life that have led to my own peace of mind and happiness. I look at the world with a new sense of awe. I have a completely new perception of the world around me and I want to share it. I feel like if we all allow ourselves to be completely happy, to love who we are, we could each achieve anything we set our minds to. Life is too precious to waste regretting our past; more people need to realize the only moment that matters is right now.
You are who you think you are. So stop thinking that someone else is to blame for you not being happy, stop thinking about the “bad” moments in your life and think about what you need to do to make it better. What you think about creates your emotions, think about what you love, what you are passionate about, what you really want to do with your life, and do it! Thinking about it, will motivate you, and motivating yourself helps you take action, even if the actions are small. Every step closer means that much more to you and keeps fueling the inner desire, the fire, and the ambition inside of you to keep going. People become great at things in this world not because they are driven by money, but because they are driven by passion, by their true desire to do what they love, they are driven by there inner desire to attain there own happiness.
Life is too short to waste it on anything but making yourself happy. Don’t let the negativity around you bring you down, don’t listen to people who tell you that you can’t do something, that you aren’t good enough, that you aren’t special. You are special, you can do anything you set your mind to, and you are good enough! You just have to live for what you love and believe it! We are all here for the same reason. We all want the same thing: we all want to be happy. The key to it though is realizing you shape that happiness; it’s up to you. You achieve it by giving into your true emotion for things, your ambitions, your passions, all the feelings of love. Follow those feelings and no matter what anyone tells you, you will be successful. Living your life that way will bring you everything you desire.
Love yourself, embrace what has brought you to this moment, and realize it has helped shape your perspective on the world. See the lessons in your experiences and bring that positive knowledge into your current moments while you work towards bringing more of what you love into your life.
Changing yourself is changing the world around you. So if you want a more loving, passionate, happy world filled with peace; you must bring that into your own mind. Get rid of the chaos and struggle that is doubt and regret. As we all come to an understanding of this, the world will begin to change because with this comes a larger understanding of life, a greater appreciation for everyone and everything. We are all seeking the same thing.
Some spend their lives wondering about their purpose, yet we all have the inner desire to attain happiness. I believe that IS our purpose if one is to exist. To simply be happy! Because being happy is allowing yourself to be who you are, to do what you love and that can only ever lead to good things. As we attain peace of mind, peace in the world will follow.