There are many things you can do to manifest an amazing intimate relationship, yet one of the fastest and most effective methods is keeping your attention on what you LIKE about the person, instead of what you DON’T like. Whatever you put your attention on expands and grows, so why not look for what is Divine rather than hideous?
Whenever you find something negative in someone there's that judgmental part in you secretly holding an attachment to what they “should” be. Everybody is exactly the way they need to be right now. The Universe is always exactly the way it should be in every moment! Realize the deeper truth in this and you'll free your energy up to attracting that amazing intimate connection that feels like you're living in that sacred special loving paradise everyday.
"We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love." ~ Tom Robbins
The Universe is really quite brilliant in many amazing ways. It is designed to awaken each of us to our infinite path, purpose and potentiality. If you are going to discover your deepest spiritual depth and truly learn all the life lessons you are here to learn, you MUST open up and deepen in intimacy with someone.
An intimate open loving relationship is your ULTIMATE teacher, because it forces you to go deeper inside and heal all those wounded parts that feel unworthy of love. Without true intimacy the mind will just make up stories that your relationship is O.K. as it is and while deeper inside you really feel disconnected from your partner.
Only through opening up to deeper intimacy can you discover total healing and the real reason why you are on this amazing journey called Life.
"If you want a place in the sun, you have to put up with a few blisters." ~Abigail Van Buren
Intimacy (into-you-me-see) can be uncomfortable at first, especially when you have to look at parts of yourself that you don't like to look at.
Yet, it invites you to release attachment from any protected, defended, velvet rut of an ego-trip, and forces you to reveal the most Divine aspects of your Being. Sharing your heart openly, vulnerably and freely with another is the strongest and most courageous thing a person can do on this Earth. The ultimate result is total freedom from suffering. Sure, intimacy is like anything in life, it contains both the negative and positive aspects depending on how you view it.
Yet, on the path that truly fulfills your soul, intimacy creates a depth in understanding your real self that goes beyond anything you can do in your cave alone.
If you want to start manifesting a more intimate relationship today, here are some helpful techniques to get you started:
1. Ask the Universe for what you want! Yes, go ahead and simply ask for more intimacy (and the courage to ask for it) instead of just settling for the connection that you may be tolerating and coping with.
If your relationship is not satisfying to your soul, you are not standing up for what you want. Imagine what that connection FEELS like and request the Universe sends it your way A.S.A.P! Be brave! Start by first focusing on the highest Source of consciousness, ask it to help you find what you honestly want, know that the Universe is listening and trust in whatever happens next!
2. Create intimacy with yourself first. A deeply intimate loving relationship with anyone always starts with discovering a intimacy within yourself. You can only attract intimacy on the outer if you find it first on your inner world. Someone can only love and respect you when you love and respect yourself.
If you are afraid of getting hurt by opening to more intimacy, it means you haven't yet been intimate with this part of you that is still afraid and protecting itself from being hurt. By being intimate with your inner world, you open the door for others to come inside and help you to discover the Divine Being you truly are.
3. Practice being more intimate everyday. One thing we don't have is a shortage of human beings on this planet. There are over 6 billion people here today and some will instantly be intimate with you, while others currently have the ability to be cold, distant, prickly and protected. You deserve the fuzzy warm heart connection you want today! Affirm to the Universe that everyday you are opening to more intimacy with whomever can open to you.
Don't wait forever for the one you are in relationship with to open up to you. If they are blocked, send them lots of love, be with them as deeply as they'll allow you, and continue on your journey to discover who you truly are. Once they see that you are FREE and finding heart opening connections with others they will have to break through their inner armor and melt those barriers to love inside. Finding intimacy for yourself helps them to initiate their healing process.
4. Let go of ALL expectations. Your mind probably has many preconceived ideas of what intimacy should and should not look like. Remember that these are just concepts about love and ANY attachment to these concepts will limit your ability to experience a deeper intimacy within yourself. The purpose of intimacy is to be able to fully HEAL all your hidden wounded parts and constantly BE this open unlimited unstoppable loving being.
Why else are you are? Stop playing small and living under the thumb of others expectations of you! Start noticing how free you really are. When you drop these expectations you'll be able to manifest a soul-to-soul connection that has TONS of intimate eye/heart contact and have healthy boundaries with them. This is your life, if you don't start living it today you will just postpone it forever and never be alive. You may miss one of the greatest experiences of life if you don't create a heart felt open minded intimate connection with another person.
Source:www.EnlightenedBeings.com http://email.info.enlightenedbeings.com/wf/click?upn=5FPhH2VhzujqdMAigpgBiYdb-2F4misZwQowBVBbNsU8q2Dn-2BgkMfU1l4AW6T7J3e8_p8DD1nfwnPsK-2F9iYXuZKpcvKKHyKg-2FXDsT-2FCQDvrrw6cCS4YorRXJqMd8y6WxQNoYEABd1N0uVEQotp2A4R1F9h8q7WsI1Z7FFLNQyyaQuBAMCsgzpypiMcwxkXgbXHlZpz9CX5iaKcl07XTqc8cDmWRHFm6vQAMuU6-2Fw12XgsmQpMZqQvoPVXPlo3Abv4Nn
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I see what you mean dear Nighteyes.
Maybe starting with this !
Teaching Your Child About Conflicts
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We as adults are instrumental in creating environments that reduce conflict and in teaching our children skills for resolving conflict.
Below are helpful ideas for parents and professionals to use across a variety of environments.
1. Create an Environment that Reduces Conflicts
Rules and routines can avoid many conflicts because they set expectations for your child. There will always be toys and activities that allow only one or two of your child to participate at a time. By using rules and routines, you create a system that allows your child to share resources. Therefore, you reduce conflicts.
For example, allowing them to use the computer for 10 minutes when it is their turn on the schedule or let Bobby pick the family television show every other night.
2. Take Time to Calm Down
Your child needs to learn to resolve some conflicts on their own. When they have different opinions or are upset, a break from the situation may be necessary. You can teach them to remove themselves from the situation and discuss things when both parties are calm.
3. Use ‘I’ in Conversations
Teach your child to use phrases that help other children understand their point of view rather than blaming the other person. Often your child do not realize why another child is upset or what they could do to make the situation better.
For example, if your child is pushed by another child, encourage them to use phrases like, "I was sad when you pushed me" or "I fell into the wall and I have a bump."
These phrases explain what happened and why it was upsetting your child better than phrases like, "You hurt me."
When they use the "I" phrases they talk about how they feel which is hard for another child to dispute.
4. Take the Time to Problem Solve
If they have a difficult conflict to resolve, give them examples of solutions or help them think of alternatives. For example, if both of them argue about who gets to use the water fountain first, suggest letting one of them go first for the water fountain and the other one be the line leader (or go first next time for the water fountain).
Younger children may need examples of alternatives while older children may be able to create their own alternatives. Explain to them that compromise involves give and take and learning to find creative alternatives that satisfy both people.
5. Put Things in Writing
Whether making a list of possible solutions, creating a schedule of chores, or outlining rules for a game, seeing expectations on paper reminds us how to approach different situations. You and your child both can easily forget whose turn it is for chores and other household activities.
An easy to read schedule in a convenient location can reduce disputes about many roles and routines. If there is a dispute, work with them to brainstorm a list of possible resolutions. Then choose the best solution for all parties. This is a calming activity that teaches your child about problem solving and compromise.
And the next one is maybe important!?
Never Tell Your Child These!
by Jamie Sullivan · 1 comment http://manageyourchild.com/blog/never-tell-your-child-these/
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Whenever we’re angry with our child’s behavior, sometimes we unintentionally say negative things to them. Phrases that will make them feel even more miserable or phrases that will affect their self esteem.
We might not realize they’re negative phrases, but I’m sure these 5 phrases below would have a negative effect on your child when you say it to them.
Just because mummy say so…
This shows nothing but one thing. You’re trying to force your authority on to your child even when you do not have a good reason for that. Always try to explain to your child why he or she should not do something, and not just say "Just because I say so…"
If only you could be more like your brother or sister.
Comparing your child with their siblings could only make the siblings rivalry even worse. As a parent, we need to understand that each of our child are different in characters and we should treat them equally rather than comparing them.
Mummy was too busy to come and see you…
Now, how will your child think of you when you say this? Are you trying to say that something you’re doing is more important than them? Try to prioritize things and make sure your children are among the top 3 most important things for you.
Wait until your dad/mom gets home, then (insert disciplining action)…
Parents usually say this in relation to disciplining the child. You might sound as though you’re threatening your child, but the threat will only happen when your spouse is back.
How will your child feels then?
In any case of misbehavior, it is the best to discipline your child right when the misbehavior happens. NOT delaying it until your spouse is back!
You can’t possibly do that/succeed at that!
Now, your role as a parent is to ENCOURAGE your child, and not discourage them. If you do not want them to do a certain thing, explain to them why and not just say this statement bluntly! It will do nothing but lower your child’s self esteem and this will have a long term effect towards whatever they’re doing in the future and in life.
I suggest you take the next 5-10 minutes to think whether did you unconsciously say these 5 phrases to your child? We all human beings and we make mistakes.
The important thing is, we LEARN from our past mistakes!
I love you Nighteyes.
Love,light and laughter,
your friend Meindert
how wonderful meindert. a nice reminder. the hard part is getting this message out to the people who really need to hear this.