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Happy Child Guide
Children can feel and express anger at a very young age. As they grow older, their understanding towards people and things around them starts to advance. Therefore, their way of expressing anger will also change, eventually.
As they grow up, situations that will cause them to become angry will increase. By now, they tend to understand more about their surroundings and had been in a lot of situations that would probably make them angry. All these are part of their development process.
The family plays a very important role in the emotional growth of the children, which has a direct influence on how they feel and the way they express their anger. Research shows that most children tend to imitate the behavior of their parents, whether directly or indirectly. So please, do not do things that you would not want your children to follow, in front of them. The surrounding at home is also very important as it plays a key role in the emotional development of the children.
I will share with you 5 very simple, yet proven to be effective ways that you can handle your children when they are in anger. They are also found at Child Anger Management - Helping Young Children with Anger, Effectively.
As a responsible parent, try to change the environment at home to prevent experiences or situations that will lead to unnecessary stress, anger or frustration between you and your children.
Do not take their anger personally. This will have direct influence on them. The angrier you are, the more anger they might have inside them too. Take a break before everything goes out of hand.
Try to direct their attention away from the current situation. Try to distract them from the situation, and get a break to cool things off before it gets worse.
It is very important that we as parents do not give in when our children is having their tantrums. If we do, they will think that by acting in that way, they can get what they want from us.
Do not lecture or hit your children when they are in anger, or for no particular reasons. It will only make things worse. Keep it for another day. Try to have a slow conversation with them to cool them down.
I hope these few tips help.
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very wise words indeed. thanks again!
You are very welcome my dear friend!
I hope you find something useful in my postings.
Love, light and laughter,
your friend Meindert.
so. . . . where are all the indigos and their parents? i would think these posts would be generating a lot of discussion. am i the only one who is having anger management issues with their indigo? last week i spent over $300. repairing holes in my walls and i'm only half done. then, add to that another $200. repairing my doors, and this kid is getting expensive. he has had to take the bitter pill that we don't have any money for extras this month because he can't control his rage. that's very difficult for him.
he is a wonderful child, so i don't want it to sound like i'm always complaining. it's just that i don't really need help working with him when he's not angry. i think we have that part pretty much worked out. so thanks for being there with resources and an ear to vent my frustration. - i'm sending you a great big cyber-hug.
Maybe they find it difficult to speak in public about the issue of the "anger".
You are very open about this "problem". I like that, so I can help you with my postings.
And by the way I myself did repairing to walls and doors .The second of my three sons `temperament` was due to this. He is now a teacher on a highschoo,l He has kids from his own and many from others, So you see that was a temporal problem !
And I accept your great big cyber hug.
Love,light and laughter,
Your friend Meindert.
did you ever have problems getting him to attend school?
my son skipped so much school that they were threatening to take my ex-husband and i to court for negligence. me moved him to a private school that is very flexible. i have even worked out an arrangement so that he only has to go one day a week as long as he does his school work at home. but now he's not even doing that. the last time my ex tried to force him to go to school, my son pulled a knife on him. so, we're caught between the legal system here and my son.
My second skipped school from time to time but not on a regular base.
He had a goal that he wanted to the CIOS/school' that´s a sportsinstitute.
So he got his exam from high school to reach for his goal to become a teacher in sports.
Forcing is very often useless, slamming doors and worse are the results.
Setting goals and seeing a future that can be made is trying the best.
Try to motivate him for something that he can manage!
And yes we also had to struggle for results.
L,L.L.
Meindert
my problem is that there is absolutely nothing (other than marijuana) that motivates him. it's illegal in this country, so you know that won't happen. his goals are not realistic at this point. he tells me that i just have to trust him, and honestly, at this point, it seems i have few other choices.