Is Love and Obsession the same thing? or does Love lead to Obsession? many people say they love someone but they don't mean it, they only say it because they feel they're expected to, so this may be the reason why it is difficult to say what Love is, or what it does to people...
but how rare do you mean? because if it's as rare as i'm thinking then it might as well be Non-existant, but how rare is it? like... maybe 1 our of 25 couples experience real love? or is it 1 out of 1 million couples that experience real love?
... ;) are you seriously asking me this ... you want me to give a statistics out of 7 billion people ... ;) my example comes from my Grandparents ... ;) you don't need words to describe LOVE ... IT IS ACTION ... you can't put love in any vocabulary box it will only limit it ... like this one Love gives You Wings .... ;) ... you are funny ... ;)
and also LOVE is a GIFT ... which everybody want it ... ;) but only few get it ... ;)
but you can't understand love if you can't describe it with words, and if Love is as great as you say it is then it sounds alot like obsession, or that it can lead to obsession. :P
IT IS AN INNER KNOWING ... no words needed, any words will never truly describe it or they will never do just to LOVE ...
a simpler analogy ... you have a bird (for pet) that you love, in very nice cage, now if you love the bird you will set it free, if it comes back - it's yours, you don't need a cage anymore (even if it made of gold ... ;))
I guess that depends on how much you "love" this person or thing. For example; I love the color Blue, but I don't paint my house blue, or my rooms or buy everything "blue". Therefore, I love blue but am not obsessed with it.
but if you love someone or something enough, wouldn't you be obsessed with them or it? or is Love now the same thing as hate, or indifference...?
Hmm, well it's a bit confusing to compare Love and Hate as being the same for to me, they are worlds apart. Let me give you another example. My wife and I have been married for almost 36 years. We have "loved" each other since day one. Through the good and the bad. We are almost like opposites (hence the saying "opposites attract").
Now, if I followed her around everywhere, sent her a text every 5 minutes, bought her flowers every day, even she and others may say I am "obsessed". Even though I do not do these things she and others around us know that we "love" each other. Now this is my own personal opinion, I feel obsession is very close to Idolization.
Just my thought Brother
Well, there you go my brother. It appears you have found the answer :) A short definition for "obsessed" and many definitions for "love". I can't help but notice however that out of all the definitions for "love" the word "obsessed" is not mentioned.
Love and Light
but I did find:
A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
I found something that I thought was interesting... http://intro2psych.wordpress.com/2009/05/12/love-obsession-and-chem...
If one is romantically attached to the mother, one will be more likely to hunt for both the mother and the child. The obsessive nature of love that...
and it stops there because my school blocked the website, but it makes me think that a man in love and obsessed with a woman will risk his life to hunt for food and protect her from harm, he would feel the need to do whatever it takes to do this, but If a man says he "Loves" a woman, but is not really obsessed with her, he would hesitate, and he wouldn't feel the survival instincts as strongly....
Most human beings confuse Love with attachment. That is they become attached to the object of their love. Love is not attachment, love is always free and without demands, conditions or expectations. Obsession on the other hand is a form of attachment. Love has nothing to do with obsession. When you truly love someone you do not need to cling to them or be attached to them. Genuine love means that you will always feel love for the person no matter where they are or where they go, and you wish for their highest happiness, even if that means you are apart from them. Yes people who truly love may be alone, but that is because they have no need to cling to others for emotional gratification. They experience love in every moment of every day, because it is in everything and everyone, it is everywhere and there is no need to grasp after it. There is no separation in this vibration. There is no other. There no ego. Only and endless ocean of love. Most relationships are based on desirous attachment. Love is where you accept everything and everyone for what it is, and can be one with anything that exists, because in actuality you share the same heart. There is no need therefore to possess, control, make demands or have expectations, because you feel one with the Love that is in everything without limitation. Love frees you therefore, it does not bind you to any person or any thing.
Having said all that, Love mixed with attachment is not necessarily a bad thing. It is a learning experience, and in some cases can be beneficial for all involved. Obsession on the other hand, always leads to a bad place, one way or another.