Since this is a topic that has been hushed by so many, I think we should have a very open discussion about it. Since sexual energy is the life force, this applies to each and everyone of us. I will not allow any crude remarks or patriarchal views of sex to be promoted here. JUST BECAUSE YOU DON'T LIKE SOMETHING DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO JUDGE ANOTHER FOR BEING DIFFERENT. Also, I would rather not have this turn into a debate on why society/schools have decided not to embrace its teaching. I don't mind comments of this nature, but I just don't want it to get off topic. Let us, instead, inform one another about what's possible through sex and the harnessing of its energy. Please keep in mind when you are commenting that there are young people reading this, and while they do need the truth, they also don't need every juicy detail of what it was like in the 60's, lol ;) (Although, you can always send me a private message, as I love the juicy details! Ha, how's that for honesty :) Now, who's brave enough to add to this discussion? Knowledge is power! And sex is sacred.
lol.....like yr order...lol..cheers
Masturbating 4 times a day? xD lol Is that for real?
Well I think that's when you know it's a problem. I think, like anything, sex can become an addiction and an attachment. Especially if you feel like you need to have it, and feel cranky or anxious or desperate without it. That's really when you know it's a problem. I think people tend to use sex as a way to fill a void with closeness and intimacy, a void that ideally they should be filling themselves.
I'll also say I think that there's a clear difference between love making, and lustful sex. A huge difference. I think the ladder is impure, but sadly, it's something people just seem to love doing. And they confuse love with lust all the time, when it's not the same thing. Some people will even go so far as to leave their spouse, because they don't feel sexually attracted or satisfied with them, and think "well I don't love them anymore". Of course that's not real divine selfless love. That's being in love with lust lol And I think when your love in a relationship is based mostly on lust and attraction, you have a problem.
I was a highly sexual person when I was younger. I was horny all the time, I had many different sexual relationships with people...and I've dated and been with basically all types of girls. Black, white, latina, asian, tall, short, big, skinny, blonde, brunette, big tits, little tits, etc. And..sex really isn't all it's cracked up to be. Unless it's just pure lust. People talk about tantric sex and all that, and I have to be honest, I never experienced it. It's not that sex isn't a great experience, I just never had this amazingly blissful, spiritual experience having sex. Sex is just sex lol I mean seriously is it really that important. I think, the older and more mature you get as a soul, the less appealing sex is.
do you withhold your semen?
Well, ancient egyptians used to harness sexual energy with a tool called the ankh! Then there's the explanation of Tantra, of the union/communion of two beings in perfect harmony. I personally feel that there is nothing wrong with sex, it's just the perspective that denies the rightful interpretation of it! For instance, Anyone barely influenced by media, is looking at porn. And porn is demeaning to both men and women, if you look at it, and then there's social conditioning that prevents a generation from exploring it righteously, while making it something that the cool kids just 'do', for fun, and that's where this life-force gets abused!
Sex is definitely sacred, and no I haven't found anybody yet for sacred sex, nobody gets it!
Interestingly I was just reading a book called, "The Weiser Field Guide to Ascension", (The meaning of Miracles and Shifts in Consciousness Past and Present). In Chapter 9, Sex and The Ascension he talks about The Egyptian Practice of Ankhing. The author mentions that this information appeared in an article written by Drunvalo for the April 2001 edition of 'The Spirit of Ma'at' magazine entitled "Ancient Egyptian Sexual Ankhing".
I've been a very sexual person for the past 5 years or so, I love just about everything about it. Making my husband orgasm is almost as satisfying as when I do. Most of the time I like to have very sensual, passionate sex with a lot of foreplay (sometimes over an hour of foreplay) and then sometimes a quickie is all I need.
Yes, masterbation is always satisfying but there is nothing like cumming together with the one you love.
What about you Melody Dove?
Sex is the tie that binds each and everyone of us to this 'reality'... in it's infinite expressions, it can serve as a truly profound way to understand 'one'-self and the power of sharing that with someone else. Whether for fun or the full Tantric experience, sex remains one of the great/beautiful things about duality. Make no mistake about it, 'sex' only intensifies as we move up the multidimensional ladder. ~ In Lak'ech Ala K'in 555
“It is the imagination that argues for the Divine Spark within human beings. It is literally a decent of the World's Soul into all of us.” ~Terence Mckenna
*I'm also curious Melody, given what seems to be some of your Toltec focus, what are your feelings on sex?
Mantak Chia has the best teaching I've seen about lifting the chi or life force, (sexual) energy from the base chakra up the spinal column to the higher chakras, (heart, third eye,crown), to be used as an elixir for your whole being. He's written several books on both male and female sexual healing including: "Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy" and "The Alchemy of Sexual Energy: Connecting to the Universe from within". Although I have practiced some of these techniques and felt the energy move up, I can''t seem to get over the fasination of a good orgasm, letting all the energy drain out the bottom valve so to speak.
Right on Melody. For some reason it's a topic EVERYONE avoids. And I find it to be one of the most important topics in all creation. If you thought the mainstream people avoid it, you ain't seen nothing yet, until you get to the spiritual community.
We do know that when the PTB realized they could not control sex like everything else, they decided to pervert it and to increase it to such a degree, to actually cause damage to just about everyone.
The plan they put into effect was for redirecting the purpose of sex, ie: sex without reproduction and reproduction without sex.
The plan's purpose:
"Well, from population control, the natural next step then was sex. Sex must be separated from reproduction. Sex is too pleasurable, and the urges are too strong, to expect people to give it up. Chemicals in food and in the water supply to reduce the sex drive are not practical. The strategy then would be not to diminish sex activity, but to increase sex activity, but in such a way that people won't be having babies."
This I would guess is the surface reason, but we know it goes much deeper than that.
Imagining sex is sexier than talking about it, in my opinion. Having it without imagining it is not sexy at all. Being with a person you deeply love, is sexy whether you are having sex or not. Hearing someone having sex, and you're not, is a total turn on, unless that person is someone you should have been with, and you're mad as hell about it. Make-up sex is great, unless you're still angry and he/she is just going through the motions. First sex can be either incredible or a big disappointment. Sex is boring with someone who is just doing it out of a feeling of obligation. Feeling sexy is a turn-on even if you are alone. Withholding sex is cruel and inhumane. Using sex to get your way is commerce. Loving someone you can't have is frustrating. Being touched intimately is something a lot of women miss after the honeymoon is over, and the guy just doesn't get it, thinking it's all about performance. Being "in love" is not necessary to being thrilled by sex, and vice versa. Being creative enhances the sex drive for some, takes the place of the sex drive for others. And that's enough about that. Life is like a box of chocolates, my Momma said (wasn't that Sally Fields?). Your turn, Mel.