Just 3 months after my divorce my ex husband is engaged to a girl whos 4 months pregnant with his child. He pretends I dont even exist and that his daughter doesnt exist. He doesnt respond to any of the pictures I send of her and doesnt even call to check on her or anything.
Whats worse is on her facebook she says mean things about me calling me the "crazy ex wife" and saying things like "look at our new car" "were getting married" "look at our new baby sonogram" and they picked the baby boy the name that my ex and I were going to name our baby if we had a son which was "Liam."
I dont understand how he can live on and leave me like this. Im struggling and hes living in glory even though hes evil.
hate is dangerous energy and seems you need to let go of it. hate is like a cancer that will eat you alive.................
I would rather concentrate my energy on taking care of myself first before I would worry about someone who does not want you anymore. you're too young to waste your life hating others.................
and , next time you search for future partner, this experience should make you and your decisions wiser.................
I know it's not easy to let go, I know, been there before. My ex wife in revenge for leaving her , made her parents and my brother testify against me in court and made me out to be a monster. Judge would not listen to my arguments nor would she consider that they are lie~ing . As a resoult of this I lost my parental rights to my children, can't come within 80 feet of them for another couple of yrs. My anger turned into pure hatred not only for the world but everyone around. After my divorce , I spend almost a yr hiding in my parents house , in the basement, drinking this sour way and almost killed me self doing this.
I woke up from that, decided to change my life, from my diet to my relantionships with whom I interact. it took couple of yrs polishing this new, unknown energy for me and you know something : what my ex did to me, today I praise and love her for making me a strong person. I even tell her that and she thinks that I lie just to rattle her cage. She still does not believe that what she did was the best thing ever happen to me .
My point ; we all go through such challenges, some experience extremes while others just over react ( i am not implying that you over react ), yet everybody reaches a certain levels of awakening from such moments. Especially in these , modern times where entire game of right and wrong~dark and light plays out right in front of us.
The question is who learns from it and who does not.
there are many methods of grounding self back to natural state of what we are meant to be : peaceful,kind and compassionate..........................somebody once said : love thy enemy( it works if implemented on personal level )......
It takes practice however it is possible ; trust me I know...........................................
Hatred is a strong emotion to harbour Sarah, it will consume you from the inside out. Hatred has a nasty habit of only affecting the one in which it resides. I think you would be well advised to rise above these dramas and the negativity which they bring. I understand they affect you directly but there are other choices you can make...you just need to identify them.
I personally do not use facebook. Never have, never will. It is not as secure as one may think.
I recommend for you to focus on your self, to be strong, and to get creative in your kitchen :)
Do you meditate or do any chakra work? I feel you would benefit greatly from these practices.
Love n Light to you as always :)
only pain inflicted upon uself is your own , Sarah....................................
be in Love and everything else is no longer importantly painful....................................
And I would like to ask you what you would like to do with this situation, overcome it perhaps?You'll never will if you keep in that way girl!
Let go! Let go of your attachment, let go of your expectations. Let go of him. It is the ONLY WAY.
That is how you will overcome "this".
There is nothing to keep hanging onto. The dude has made his decision and you can only keep damaging yourself by trying to force things into their previous state or take some kind of revenge or even take notice of what is happening with his side.
Focus on your life and your daughter's life instead - and everything that has always made you feel happy and fulfilled. Start to find new things that make you happy. Expand. Busy yourself with friends. Find new love........
Challenging situations such as this are there for exponential growth. Recognize that and strive forward.
try this ....
find a quiet moment alone, somewhere where there is a mirror.. look iinto the mirror and looking deep into your own eyes gently repeat the words I Love you .. over and over.. do it for a minuite or two.. or as long as you want to ..
make an arangement with yourself that you will do it every day for a while.. as you look into the mirror repeating the words I Love you .. over and over..
see what feelings come up.. you may begin to go through different feelings, just allow them to come up and let go of all of the hurt inside you.. do it until you begin to feel emotional.. until you cry for Love.. for the Love of yourself to yourself..
Just take it step by step and gently come back to yourself, back to your own heart..
after doing this technique for a while, you will feel the deepest Love in you.. all other feelings that are not loving will simply fall away and you will notice more how others will be loving you.. more.
this is a powerfull excercise in self Love and it works..
... remember Sarah, you are Loved.
This is a very beautiful reply :)
nature, like walks around beaches, maybe even a forest or a swamp in florida
getting in touch with mama nature...................
meditations with papa sky could help, like yoga and sun and star gazing .....................
........from personal experience , prayers help too
You can ground yourself in so many ways...with crystals, walking in the fresh air, hug a tree, tending to any herbs you may have growing in your kitchen. Actually a new one that I recently learned of is to wash your hands under cold running water with the intention of grounding yourself. How easy is that?!! Now...go hug that tree just outside :)