Healthy Ways to Vent

by ~ Annalisa Robusto

Let’s face it - we are emotional beings.

We see our world through our eyes, react to our pain and then spread it out energetically into the world.

Many times we dump our crap or emotional poison onto others and into the environment.

Storing the stress and emotional poison inside our bodies is not the answer either. This can lead to physical problems and it is no mystery in today’s world that most all physical problems were caused by emotional issues that were not dealt with in time.

There is a magic to proper clearing of stored emotional pain and stress, but first you must recognize that we are also energetic beings.

We feel and sense energy all around us. As babies we learn to sense our parents interaction with us and each other before we even learn to speak.

People can pick up on your energy and be affected by it, so before exploding your poison onto to your BFF, lover or co-worker, here are some things to try.

1. Journal, journal, journal.

I mean—get off of that computer and write.

In order to make sense of what is going on in your head and body, you have to get the emotions out of your head. This is one of the safest ways to vent. Writing or even yelling into the paper clears it out of your body. It also clears your mind and allows room for clarity.

2. Movement and exercise.

Dance, sweat, walk, anything—just move. It is our birth right to move our bodies getting oxygen, blood and life force throughout them. This will also dig up old junk that has started to store as stiffness. As a preventative measure, you can release this before it manifests into illness.

3. Sing, chant, yell and laugh.

If you are shy a perfect time is to do this is while driving. I do this especially while riding on my Vespa or floating in the ocean.

Not only does this serve as a great release, but chanting and singing also open up your energy centers, referred to as Chakras. (Chanting ohm, ame and eee are my favorites.)

Then throw on some of your favorite tunes to sing and yell it all out—and laugh at yourself—a lot.

Laugh at everything. Don’t forget life is fun! You will be clearing and releasing and feel like you just had a full body massage.

4. Deep breathing.

We can live without food for weeks and water for a few days, but without oxygen we can only survive a few minutes. Yes, you already knew that, but did you know that we stop breathing correctly after the age of five?

Most of us breathe only into our chest and do not pull the breath all the way into our bellies. Putting your hand on your belly and taking a few long breaths a few times a day will greatly increase your awareness and sense of peace.

Start to notice where you feel tense in your body when you are stressed. Take some deep breaths into this area and breathe out the pain.

Even after taking some of the previous steps you still might be need of some good ‘ole girl time.

Here are some suggestions for safe venting or when being vented onto:

Keep your space and temper in check.

We are social beings and sometimes we just need to talk. Let your friends know you are about to vent. Check in with them, their needs and time limits before taking over as the (me) - show.

When involving someone with your issues, watch that your words and thoughts are not toxic and are coming from a place of detachment and observation. If you are not there yet, then you are putting your friend at risk or hopefully they know how to block your toxic garbage.

For example, one “romantic” evening of Mai Tais on the beach quickly turned into a passive-aggressive dumping of an ex-boyfriend’s toxic bullsh*t—on me. Nothing I said seemed to help.

Recognizing this, I started to detach from him. I watched him like he was on a movie screen and instantly I felt no emotional attachment to the event. Then I visualized between us an umbrella that had blown inside out, so that his anger would go right back towards him.

It was amazing to watch him vent and I had no reaction. I was able to stay completely detached and unharmed and watched how silly he was in the middle of his own temper tantrum.

This was an empowering moment for me.

Another technique I learned from the Clairvoyant Center of Hawaii is to place a large rose visually about two feet in front of you. Psychically this guards your space, keeping invaders out.

It works. At a dinner party once, I was having a conversation with this guy who started to get really intense, kind of pushy and in my space, so I threw up a big rose in his face and he immediately backed down.

Recently, a friend needed to vent to me. I visually put a barrier between us and drew little spiraling clouds above our heads to send any harmful energy to the universe.

I asked the energy being released to be transmitted safely as it was sent into the universe. I imagined sparkles of light as the energy left us. After doing this I said “vent away.”

This came naturally to me after allowing myself to have fun with it and practice.

Protecting yourself, especially if you are sensitive to energy, is imperative to your spiritual, emotional, mental and physical health.

Which leads me to a something I like to call “succubus.”

Do you ever hang out with someone and afterwards feel completely drained? Not only are these people giving you their toxic energy, but they can feed off of your healthy energy.

It is important to limit interaction with these people—protect yourself when you do have to interact and cleanse yourself ASAP.

Cleanse, clear and replenish.

Understanding that we are emotional and energetic beings, we can hold onto energy that isn’t ours in our auric field. We also pick up on frequencies and radiation from all the gadgets around us. Daily cleansing is a huge investment in your well-being.

The best way to cleanse?

Get into nature. What is the first place that pops into your head—the desert, the mountains, the ocean?

For me, all my life I knew that I had to put at least my feet in the ocean every day.

When I start feeling weird emotions and that everything is coming at me at once, I run to her. I love when I am standing in the ocean with my toes buried in the sand. I don’t have to ask for anything, the ocean does it all.

In just five minutes I am grounded and smiling with full clarity—wow, now that’s cleansing mother-nature-style.

Also, daily showers and baths are doing much more than just cleaning dirt. Being in water of any kind will cleanse your energy and hydrate you. Adding nature’s elements to your daily routine is what I call a ritual—do something daily.

Putting your feet on the ground as much as possible allows the Earth to cleanse you. Get off the computer, cell phone and get outside and enjoy getting wind baths, sunbaths, star and moon baths—these will cleanse and invigorate your being.

Pack a lunch or take your food to go and eat at a park. Bring a blanket and watch the trees, kids and animals play. Lie under the clouds and see the stars at night.

Connect to nature, our God-given entertainment and natural cleanser.

Annalisa is from Encinitas, California and currently is managing an Eco Village on the Big Island of Hawaii after selling her car, quitting her job as a Math Teacher and deciding to live her life. You can find her blog here: http://thegoddesswalk.wordpress.com/.