Doing the wrong thing for the right reason???

Hello!

Just a quick question. I'm currently involved in quite a messy situation where basically, I'm going to have to go down the route of removing an individual from their position, due to the negativity that they are creating within a particular area. This is in the 'real' world by the way, not in the astral realms!!

Essentially, this person has 'dug their own grave', so to speak, and although my gut is telling me that this is the right thing to do, I worry that my ego is coming into this, as this person is one of very few who I struggle to see the good in on a day to day basis. There is also the fact that I will benefit from their removal in many ways (some direct, many indirect).

They're no monster and I can see how they ended up where they are and feel empathy for them in a lot of ways, but the fact still remains that they are causing damage to many other people who I care about deeply and their ego is such that speaking to them directly about this isn't an option!

I still feel that I am the right person to be making this decision and am trying to ignore what I personally have to gain from this but it worries me that this is influencing my choices on some level that I'm not acknowledging.

On the one hand I have the individual and their family who I know will suffer but on the other, I have potentially thousands of individuals who are losing out due to the actions of this person!

What are your opinions on doing something unpleasant to help others? Greater good type statements really don't sit well with me yet I keep ending up in these situations!!!

Peace, light and love

Catherine xxx

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Permalink Reply by Feather Winger on October 5, 2012 at 3:53pm

Cat......I think it is called tough love....sometimes we have to do these things.

check this...

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Permalink Reply by Auorix on October 5, 2012 at 11:04pm

He is very lucky to not have his entire face ripped off accidently and it would be nobodies fault except his own..lol

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ContributorPermalink Reply by Delilah7777 on October 5, 2012 at 11:09pm

And he is willing to take that risk because his Love is greater than his Fear...

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Permalink Reply by Vagelis4VP on October 5, 2012 at 11:16pm

... its not about Love.... its about Trust that have earned after many years of familiarity with them,....

maybe u have much bigger Love than him... but i would like to see u to go and try this...lol...

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Permalink Reply by Auorix on October 6, 2012 at 4:18pm

@D7777..I love em too, from a distance!. LOL..They are wild for a reason, Love is not blind nor stupid..lol

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ContributorPermalink Reply by Delilah7777 on October 5, 2012 at 10:06pm

If your intention is to harm someone or commit physical violence, than I would say with strong conviction that doing the "wrong thing for the right reason" is still very WRONG.

If course, I can't really asses or give an honest opinion about this unless I know more about the situation...

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Permalink Reply by Catherine on October 6, 2012 at 6:56am

Hi,

Yeah, I think tough love is about right......I guess I might have chosen this job but it doesn't mean I always have to like it!!

Lol, no, there is no violent intent, it's an individual who has some quite serious behabioural problems. It's not their fault but the affect on others is still the same, sadly.

I love the idea of being behind the fence in that video but can only imagine how terrified I'd be if it actually happened, lol!

Cat xxx

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Permalink Reply by Kevin on October 6, 2012 at 9:14am

I faced the same problem today. It's hard when you realize someone puts money above even the lives of their very children.

That's why i try to remember that we have cherubs to laugh and sing even when we must go to war sometimes to restore the order. Some part of me can be enjoying peaceful innocence even when I'm not able to for a bit.

Some will be a Judas all the way to oblivion it seems. I pray i am wrong about them, and i pray they prove themselves to be champions soon.

But, one must think of the children above all. They must be kept safe from OUR war. They don't deserve it. They deserve peace.

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Permalink Reply by Peter Panayiotis Karanikas on October 6, 2012 at 10:19am

Just be clear on what your intent is in taking this action.

Is it the most compassionate alternative?

Can you make the changes to your ego to allow you to speak to him directly about it?

Because that is, inevitably, the most compassionate solution.

There is always a way to tell someone what they need to hear in a way that they have no choice but to accept. Are you prepared to find it? Is it worth it? It may not be worth it for him, or the situation, bur it is worth it for you. Because he doesn't have the problem with his behaviour. You, and everyone else does.

Namaste.

I infuse my every decision and action with the intention of greater Love.

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Permalink Reply by christopher ward on October 6, 2012 at 3:08pm

Wow this is a conundrum i think we all will face at some point in our lives. I would call it volentery intervention angst , ' i must act in order to preserve'. Do we allow the negative flourish and spread or do we hope it will cease or change organically? Is the negative really negative? What is the negative teaching? What is the best/worst case scenario? Am i alone in my perception of the negative? Am i the negative in my own personal perception without realizing? Am i acting out of ego or love? If it is a simple case of removing someone (without violence or threat) from your life in order to preserve stability and positive harmony in your own life then i think its wise to do so and time will judge whether you were correct or not, but if you are doing it because you think it will benefit other people then i would think long and hard and speak to all concerned about the situation in order to get the BIG PICTURE and avoid any actions that could become harmful or hurtful to yourself and others around you. Think and trust your heart and you won't go to far right or wrong. Love, light and luck!

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Permalink Reply by tleespirit on October 6, 2012 at 6:04pm

As a 20 year supervisor for a public agency I have had to make painful decisions that sometimes resulted in termination of an employee. I always take myself out of the equation - as you are doing. I look soley at behavior - and work performance. I make sure I work with the individual over a period of months (in one case 2 years) to give him or her every opportunity to improve. But ultimately - I am paid -using taxpayer dollars - to ensure that each employee contributes quality of work. If I see that someone who reports to me is unable to do the job or is otherwise hurting the agency, it is my duty to take action. I think you are doing what you are paid to do and if the position is wrong for that person - remove him or her so that they can find a better fit and everyone ultimately wins. I am always compassionate - direct - fair - and make sure the individual understands it is not personal. Still is hard - but must be done. Prayer - love - light helps.

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Permalink Reply by tentinyturtles on October 6, 2012 at 6:24pm

I think strings behind the scenes are being pulled sometimes without us knowing the reasons. I am not sure what the wrong this is, and I don't want to know. The peices on the chess board are being moved which effects the board. Choose your moves with wisdom......